Sociopath?

[dnamom]

My soon to be 13 yr old  step son has shown signs of possible sosciopath. He has been in counseling since the age of 8. During counseling he abused children, including his younger brother for years before anyone, including therapists/doctor's/parents knew. He was removed from an abusive home, his bio mom, and lived full time w/ us from the time he was 10 on. He's been in residential care before and has shown little to no empathy for his "victims" and as even said he doesn't recognize them as victims, only did he say that because that's what needed to be said to complete treatment. He is described as: Charming, sophisticated, manipulative, and he's only 12. I am worried what lies ahead for him, and honestly, for my other children. I don't know if there is testing available for something like this, or treatment. If anyone has ANY ideas, please...........

[adgal]

This is such a tough situation and I feel for all of you.  If I am understanding correctly, he is still in treatment correct?  So that is of course the right thing for him right now.  Other then that I think that all you can do is continue to support him, and given that he has a history of abusing other children and not understanding that he is victimizing, all you can really do is watch carefully.  If this were me, I would also seek the advice of someone who specializes in this type of behavior.  Learn what signs to watch for and professional recommendations on keeping everyone safe.  It's hard because you want your step son to feel supported and trusted, but you also have an obligation to your other children.  I honestly don't know what else to offer except that seeking the advice of a professional is the course of action I would take.  I wish you all well and wish I could be of more help.  

[dnamom]

Actually to be honest, we, myself included, have done nothing but support him. We filed for custody 4 yrs ago, and then ago 2 yrs ago after my husband left the military to take care of him. We had a guardian order bio-mom abusive and grant us custody. Once he was with us we found out that for 2 yrs (as stated in my original post for help) that he abused, sexually, violentlly, emtionally, my children. Once we found out, he was removed, as he should be, we put him in a treatment program. Where the facility has stated the tendency of sociopath. That is why I'm asking for help. Of course, I want to support him, but I also need to keep my family safe, him included.

[margypops]

Then it is possible the son hasn't got the tendencies .May I also ask what it is that you are afraid this boy will do to your children ?I have to tell you your post told me this child  could use some support and it would be wonderful if you could help him .Where was his Dad when he was removed from an abusive home ?

[dnamom]

We have been told that there are some sociopahic tendencies w/ him, and he has read up on it, and agrees that it "sounds" like his son, but ultimately doesn't want to admit it.....

[margypops]

May I ask does his Dad feel the same way that he is a sociopath?