Son & Dad

[wonnie777]

I have a 8 year old son.  His mother and I had a relationship for over 3 years, and were living together when she became pregnant.  She left and went to her parents out of province in her early pregnancy.  She called when he was born and I went to see him with my Mother.  Her Mother would not allow access.  I went to a lawyer ,but di not get any results.  We left after 2 weeks.  The lawyer I hired said there would be a court case, but 8 monts later and over 3 thousand dollars nothing happened.  Then when he was 13 months I went out there again and brought my son and his mother back here.  She left a week later.  I have tried to find an address to contact but have not been successfull.  I recently found her on facebook, but she will not reply.  I told her she is not being fair to him and he may resent her one day.  My whole family wants to know him and I just don't know what is best for him.  I am quite resentful to her for this and know I still have to be calm, but don't know what to do.  Any suggestions.  I also don't believe that his life is totally stable with her, but don't kno;w for sure.  Please Help!

[allmymarbles]

I think you can have the court order a paternity test. Once the results are in you can take her to family court for visitation rights.

[wonnie777]

No, But I do want to, not so much because I don't think he's mine, but I just don't see why she would want to; keep him from knowing his Father.  She had a stepfather growing up and when she was about 21 she found out and that he lived close by all along but her Mother wouldn't tell her or allow her father access either.  Her stepfather was weird and eventually split up with her mother a few years ago.  I know she was troubled, so even more I don't understand her.  She will be the on dealing with the consequences when he is older that it wasn't because I didn't want to be a part of his life, but it was her that refused.

[allmymarbles]

Have you had a paternity test? She may claim the child is not yours.

[margypops]

I am sorry I can understand you being upset,I think you do need more legal advice about this matter, being resentful isnt going to help, she is the Mom and his legal guardian, I think your lawyer is correct and you have to go for visitation rights , maybe you need a change of lawyer if nothing is happening ...good luck