Teenage Son being Naked in Front of Mom

[Linnie0204]

I don't know what to do!!  My 14 year old son walks around completely naked in front of me all the time!!  My husband is probably the reason, as he also walks
around naked constantly.  We live on 10 acres of wooded land, and they both
walk around naked outside, almost all summer, and even now when the weather isn't too cold.  
I feel it is time for my son to stop doing this in front of me.  He is maturing as he has a man's size penis and pubic hair.  My husband says he will stop when
it starts to bother him, but I honestly don't think so.  I have stopped alllowing our
son to come in our room when I am naked for about 2 years now, when he was
12.  What should I do, wait for him to make the decision, or should I talk to him
about it?  

[RockRose]

When your husband stops,  your son will stop too probably.  I don't know why you think this is normal in a grown man,  and odd in a boy.  It's the same thing.

Best wishes.  

[Avas Mom]

First off why would you have your son be able to see you naked when hes 12 yrs old..thats kind of weird. And i think you also should all stop doing this. THATS just disgusting..i dont see why any kid would want to see his parents naked or vice versa

[flutts]

Boy, everyone seems very comfortable in their clothes don't they?  
Maybe they see it as normal, your husband does it, so his son does it too?
That does not astound me.
Perhaps if people were not so afraid of being naked, it would'nt be so taboo.
Naked is natural, not a big deal in my opinion.

[karinav3]

First of all some people just feel better walking around naked and find nothing with it..my cousin walks around naked at home.. she would probably prefer doing that in public too.. lol... Just tell him "hey put some underwear on" tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable because he's a male and your a women... that's all..... Don't make it a huge deal =)  tell ur husband the same thing.. I guess he figured nothing is wrong with it because dad does it too and you did it for while also...

[RockRose]

flutts, I agree with you.

Some families are very comfortable with nudity,  and some aren't.  

What is bothersome here is this man walks around nude,  this child was raised in that environment,  and the mother is disturbed that the son is doing it.  He was raised that way,  of course he feels comfortable walking around nude all the time - that's what his mom used to do and his dad does daily.

Either it's fine in the family or it isn't,  I don't understand being upset with the boy for acting how he was raised.

[flutts]

Same Rose.
I would just say, if you're going to say something to the boy, you have to say it to the dad too, and at the same time so that the boy does'nt feel singled out.  You know?
Plus, you don't want him to start thinking "why does mom care?", "what is she thinking about when I'm naked that she does'nt like"....

and things like that.

[Avas Mom]

Well i get where you guys are coming from..i walk around my house naked at night..i dont like wearing clothes to bed. But when my daughter is older (im actually trying to stop now because shes almost a yr old) i would never walk infront of her naked. Or anyone else for that matter.

[flutts]

My son is 3 - he sees me naked.
And your daughter is a daughter.

I mean, whatever anyone is comfortable with is their own deal..
I just like to see people loosen up when it comes to clothing.  haha

[mum2beagain]

I was raised in a home where my mom, sister and myself were never bothered about being nude, still aren't for that matter, just stuff like walking from the bathroom to out bedrooms after a bath and such, I'm sure we walked around naked infront of dad too, never bothered us much even as we got older. My dad was a bit more modest and tended to always at least wear his underwear. My kids  (3 1/2 and 9 month boys) see me and my husband naked sometimes, after a bath, at the pool in the changing room and such. I'm not sure if or when we will have a "clothes please" rule in our house, when our son's decide they want more privacy I guess but I think when it does come about it is important that everyone has the same guidelines as to what level of dress/undress is acceptable. I think that is the issue here, if you want your son to wear clothes your husband needs to be setting the example or else your son will feel singled out.

best wishes.

[Avas Mom]

Well yes i think its no big deal..but i just dont see why a TEENAGE boy would feel comfortable doing that...but whatever he likes i guess

[tod520]

leave your son alone if he wants to walk around naked let him if hes comfortable leave him be and stop being such a prude

[PaperMoon3]

Wow, and I thought my cousin was bad! My cousin and her husband walk around the house in their underwear in front of her 10yr old son and he walks around in his underwear too.  I thought that was kind of wierd but at least they are not walking around naked. I do think my 10yr old cousin is too big to see his mom in her underwear and he doesn't bother to get dressed if someone comes over either and the other day he was OUTSIDE in his underwear when it was like 60 degrees here, in the front yard. I want to tell him to put on some clothes when I'm there but I wasn't sure how to go about saying it without being rude. He used to do this as a kid and thinks it's normal except now he's getting bigger and pretty soon they need to stop that. I guess that's how some people do they like to be free! LOL!

[catlovermom]

I don't personally see anything wrong with familial nudity IF everyone is comfortable with it.  But you're obviously not, so in this case, it's wrong for you.  Tell your husband and son to at least put on boxers if they don't want to get dressed entirely.  You have a right to set some limits here.

[sykotaboy]

Whatever, I'm 18 and both my Mom and MY dad see me completely  frontal nude and diectly facing one or both of them at least a couple of times a month. Not purposely, obviously.

I used to get Really, really, severely embarraced about it, at 15, for obvious reasons, and would freak out at the thought of it at 14, with being so emberaced and I VERY probably should be STILL. and SHOULD hide everything if I had ANY common sense at all.

Ecspecially cause I'm not a little kid anymore (weigh like 115lb and stand almost 5'-8" now)..  

But I've dealt with most of it, somehow.  

It is NOT done purposely and I  most DEFINITELY do NOT and WILL NOT make ANY kind or sort of habbit of just walking around naked, anywhere even near them, for very obvious reasoning of shyness, still covering up, and at times being a really, really, really, major emberaced about it.  

But, it's minor compared to what the stupid, doofus "physical" examinations have been like (quite a lot more embaracing to say the least) every year...

....  SO I live with it, somehow, but I do NOT make any "habbit" walking around like that, for very, very obvious reasons of either upsetting them or, more likely, upsetting myself with emberacement..  

Sounds like the thought of and the sight of it really bother you.

Maybe you could ask that they atleast wear a "robe" or "towel", etc. around the house?

Maybe you can find a way to ask him or his dad about it?

Just say it's not acceptable or something.


Dunno...

Joey

[Ashita]

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[ewell39]

A number of years ago my new wife and myself spent a week at a naturist resort in Kississimmee, Florida near Disney.  There were dozens of families there and all were nude.  I think in that situation it is the natural thing to be doing.  

[haldo]

Well in my opinion i think that it is okay for them to want to walk around naked. though may not be acceptable in the household, so you may want to ask your son to just please put on some underwear. this way he wont feel like you dont like his body or you are ashamed of him. he will just know you would rather him be in underwear. It is okay for teenagers to want to be in underwear. as he gets older he will find as he matures and starts to get everything in he will be embarressed to be naked even if he doesnt he may just be in underwear anyway. I would let him know it is okay for him to be naked in his bedroom or while he sleeps just not around the entire house  

[margypops]

Hey that set off a buch of comments and livened everyone up I nearly fell off my chair giggling and Imagining you all , clothed or unclothed!!

[king101]

I am a 16 year old boy and i walk completely nude in front of my parents and sister. my parents also sometimes walk around the house nude. and my sister also walks around the house in the nude all the time(she is 14). we see each other nude all the time. i even sleep and bath together with my sister naked. nudity should be fine within the family. you should stop having goosebumps whenever your son sees you naked or you see him naked. get used to it because he is your son,your family. and stop being bothered to be nude in front of him. get comfortable.                                        
if not, then tell him strictly not to run around naked or see you naked.Tell your husband also to stop roaming around naked. It's probably from that where he gets it.

[imanaddict]

I don't think the issue here is the boy being naked. It should be the MOM naked in front of her teenage boy! It's no wonder he walks around naked (IF this is even a true post!). The dad does it and he's seen his mom naked up until he was TWELVE!

[rmprdl1964]

Hi,

We seem to make way to big of a problem about nudity.

I grew up in the Netherlands and spent most of our vacations in Scandinavia.

At the time there nudity was normal and I saw lots of people engaged in activities while nude. For the first few years I did not dare to go nude and both my parents did not care for the nude lifestyle. It was while aboard a ferry that I got introduced in nude recreation.
There was a pool and sauna on the ferry and my broter and I wanted to go swimming. We asked for swimming trunks and the pool staff had a strange look on their face. Swimming trunks were loaned to us and we entered the sauna full of nude people male female and children. Most of them stared at us and some of the kids started to laugh. I did not speak the language but understood that it was due to the fact that we were the only ones with truks. I went to the pool dressing room and removed my trunks and returned. No one made me feel uncomfortable. I enjoyed being nude without any worries.

I spent many a time swimming nude or nude recreation while in Scandinavia. I even went to a nude beach near Rotterdam.

At the age of 17 in 1981 we immigrated to Canada and once again nudity was viewed almost as a sin.

I currently live on an acreage and spend a lot of time nude. My wife, son and daughters don't mind and at times the children have walked around nude as well coming out of the bathroom or going to the bathroom. None of them seem to enjoy the nude lifestyle like I do. We stay dressed around people. The children are not ashamed of being nude.

I even work outdoors nude behind trees on our acreage.

Here in Canada it seems that there are a lot of people with sexual perversions or even child pornography. Your kids are not safe to be nude in public. I can't recall that being a problem in Scandinavia. I was only 8 while I was molested at a swimming pool dressing room in the Netherlands. Due to that I felt that I was cautious in Scandinavia however I never felt in danger while in Scandinavia.

We all have the same parts with some variations. Nudity should be family orientated and not be thought of as being wrong. Those that don't except nudity are the ones who are not normal. We were all born nude.

Prior to the fall of Adam and Eve, both of them were nude without being ashamed. After that they tried ti hide from God, yet God asked why are you clothed?
this indicates that nudity was not a sin. Yet most so called Christians don't seem to realize it. I enjoy nudity but I also call myself a Christian yet I know that these people would not except publict nudity.

It is a shame that we don't live according to all that God has given us.

God bless

[Billplows]

I just don't understand so much trouble about nudity in front of parents. I think a son never could be ashamed to be nude in front of his own mother. My mother used to bath me till the end of my teenage years, together with a brother of 12. When she couldn't do it, that job was done by an old maid servant who occasionaly was also my nanny. At that time, I was uncircumcised and suffered of balanites ( irritation on the penis head and internal foreskin ) and till that age I was not yet operated because my pediatrician thought that to achieve a perfect " low & tight"  circumcision, taking off all the foreskin, necessary to resolve my chronic irritation, was indispensable the full growth of the penis around my 20 y.o., as was done later, on my 19, 5 years old. During all that time, from my 12 to 19 y.o., those assisted baths continued being done by mother or the nanny. I think she didn't have, I suppose, the necessary confidence on me to do that washing as the doctor prescribed, using a kind of special liquid toilet soap and anti-bacterian pomades. That usage never bothered me at all, even because, as usually, those baths, as were done, gave me a big sensation of pain relief. My younger brother, suffering of the same irritation, was also bathed till the end of his teenage years, when he was also circumcised.
Bill

[Ally777]

We have one bathroom, with one toilet.  We have two kids, 5 and 2.  My husband and I are comfortable showering with the kids using the loo, but both feel uncomfortable now with my daughter started school that she sees her dad naked in the shower when using the loo.

Questions are rife, that what if she were to mention about her dad in school?, we live in such a delicate society, situations can be fired up out of proportion.  What are we meant to do with 4 people and one loo?????

[mom_of_a_teen]

I have a son, now 18. I bathed him up till the age of 11. Neither of us thought anything of it. I stopped at the age I did only because he was getting erections everytime. Neither one of us wanted to stop but I thought I should, things being what they were. To this day nudity isn't a problem in our house.

[chris2424]

does nudity affects the relationship of mother and son? maybe it gives a lot of freedom to the mother , in the future , to mess with the boys personal life? maybe he gives her the right to do it? because he  makes her feel free to do whatever she wants. i don t know maybe nudity brings future problems in a moms and son relationship

[ccieszlak]

That's not weird at all. My dad left us when I was 5 years old and almost 2 years later I desided to walk around the house naked and my mom suported the idea knowing that it would help with me learning to be ok with the human body and thought that since I only did it at home she would let me be as comfortable as I wanted to be. Almost a year later my mom started doing it too but only once a week. When I was 14 I started looking at porn on my mom's computer and a year later even masturbated infront of her a few times which she knew was just something a growing teenager would do from time to time and was ok with it. About 4-6 months later my mom started acting like me to where she would strip completely naked once she got home from work (in my case school) and stayed that way until she left the next morning unless we had company. Not too long later ,when I turned 16, since my mom alowed me to masturbate in front of her she desided it was ok for her to mastubate infront of me. I can admit that I was shocked but I was mature enough to accept that she had needs too and shouldn't hide it especialy since we were nudist around the house. She confessed to being very lonley sometimes so we slept in the same bed at least 2 nights a week. NO, we didn't have sex with eachother. The most sexual things we did were that we would sit close to eachother and hold hands while masturbating together and would cuddle after we came. I am now 22 and she is 43 and although I'm at collage and have a full time job we make it a point for me to stay at her house on the weekends and act like we did back when I lived their.

[darkwindow]

It's your issue...don't make it his. Is your son's nudity an issue because you are concerned for him or because you are afraid for you? If you cannot look upon him with the same gernerosity with which you have raised him, then do some soul searching. If it's time to constructively make changes, then be willing to admit the real reasons to both your husband and your son. I believe one of the worst things you can do is to all of a sudden "change faces." Teens understand reasonable changes of the mind, but they do not understand contradictions with no explainations. A teen is typically responsive it there is a sincere attempt to be open and honest....even if it means admitting your own sexual or puritanical tendencies. Another thought, Have you asked your son to talk about his nudity? Could it be that he has never really thought about it beyond following an example? Perhaps an open conversation would reveal that -- or a different, personal reason. Either way, your son is opening up. After that, there is trust and growth rather than hidden thoughts.

[margypops]

I am puzzled why you have brought up an old thread .........

[bjs24]

As long as your son doesn't get an erection in front of you it shouldn't bother you.  Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks.  When you see him naked just think of him wearing blue jeans and a sweatshirt.  It shouldn't bother you unless you are tempted by him.  It's just a God given body part.  The sight of it shoudn't be anymore awkward than the sight of his bare feet or ungloved hands.

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[snoopy1338]

hmm i will have to agree with RockRose

[sm96797]

After my dad died (I was 9), I got into the habit of falling to sleep in my mom's bed while watching TV and would wake to the sound of the shower in the morning.  I would position myself to watch her get dressed while pretending to be asleep.  She soon called me on it and began waking me when she got up and inviting me into the shower with her.  I slept with her 3 or 4 nights a week and showered with her probably once a week all the way until I joined the Navy at 19.  After a 30 year Navy career and now with 4 kids of my own, I don't think it had a real detrimental affect on me.  She liked having someone to scrub her back and when I was done, I would hug her from behind so I could squeeze her breasts.  All in all it provided some good memories.