Temper tantrums in my 6 yr old

I have a 6 yr old little girl that has been having temper tantrums since she was 2 or 3. She has no issues in school and does not throw the tantrums in school or at other peoples houses. As she has gotten older her tantrums progressivley got worse. They got so bad recently that she was threatning to hurt herself so I sought out help from her peditrician. She kicks, screams, cries, blows her nose on her self and us, and goes after my 2 older children. She has also hit and kicked me during her tantrums. They litterally come out of no where. The counsler told us to restrain her until gained composure back which we have tried but they last for an hour more sometimes. She can destroy her bedroom in a matter of 5 minutes. As I am typing this she is having a tantrum and my boyfriend is restraining in which she is calling for me to help her and it breaks my heart to see her like this. I feel like a bad parent or I did something wrong. Is there anything else we can try inorder to curb her tantrums?

[teddybears4ever2]

DO NOT RESTRAIN THE KID, YOU WILL WIND UP HURT!  I think if I were you I might take her to a developmental pediatrician and see what they have to say. There could be lots of reasons that she has one.
You should kindly ask her to leave the room and come down when she is calm.  Maybe even put her in her room.  Give her some type of cooling off space.  Do not talk to her when she is not calm, do not pay any attention to her when she is not calm.  Let her know that when she calms down you will give her whatever she wants.

[margypops]

Your BF should not be restraining her that is frightening to a child , in my opinion something is upsetting her if as you say she has no behavioral issues at school or anywhere else .You say she destroys her bedroom, what has happened prior to that behavior?  She has 2 older siblings , how do they behave towards her are they kind or are there problems with their attitude..my gut feeling is more is going on with the dynamics of the family ...

[skepticalpeach]

I agree with the two women above. A teacher was kicked in the face by my daughter because they tried to restrain her. Guess what I told them? It was their own d*mn fault for being foolish. They ended up asking my daughter to leave, but life isn't fair.

Try your hardest to figure why she is throwing fits. What triggers her? Is she in pain? My daughter has temper tantrums when she is constipated, tired and hungry. She has bowel problems and is occasionally in pain. Kids also get growing pains and so many other things. The world can seem like a scary place to a little kid because they are aware of how helpless they are.

Is your child seeing a therapist? Is she seeing an occupational therapist or a behavioral pediatrician? There are things that you can do to help her besides physically restraining her and scaring her! She could seriously get hurt if you do that.

[teddybears4ever2]

Has she ever had an EEG?  I might get her one, in case she is having seizures.