Toddler boys kissing

I'm currenly in an uncomfortable situation because i have a very good friend with two boys (2 1/2 yr & 4 yr) and both are very affectionate with my 20 month old. They are always hugging him and kissing him and my son is starting to do the same back. I feel my son is learning from them that hugging and kissing boys is okay.  I understand at this age the children are just expressing affection but i don't feel boys need to be affectionate with others boys. They can play together, give high fives, and or handshakes. But the kissing makes me uncomfortable. I don't know how to approach this situation with the other parents or my son so this behavior stops.

[margypops]

well they most certainly will be passing on any germs and they are at school your baby will get every virus going if the excessive kissing carries on ,I suggest you use it as an excuse to cool it with the kissing.the other  parents will understand that ..

[Heatherm4]

I would just say "we aren't kissing, lots of germies"! If I were you though, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Babies and toddlers are quite sexless and don't really understand things like that, they just know that you love them so you give em a nice kiss and they are showing that they really like your son. It's sweet but yes, pretty germy!!

[adgal]

I have a 19 month old that is also super affectionate.  With both myself and my husband (his father) and everyone else.  He loves to give kisses, including the kids he is in daycare with (boys and girls).  To start with the germs issue.  I can see your concern, however, if your child is anything like mine, they are constantly passing toys back and forth, those toys are going in the mouth etc.  I guess I am of the belief that those germs are going to be there, and it's not really possible to have them around other kids and avoid it.  So, I do my best, and don't worry about it anymore (and you are talking to the biggest worrywart ever when it comes to my son).

As for affection with other boys...remember that at this age there is no sexuality involved. It's affection, pure and simple.  I personally don't think it's anything to be concerned about.  I had someone tell me that giving him kisses was teaching him innappropriate sexual behavior.  I'm glad I didn't listen because I have a sweet affectionate little boy who is well socialized and normal. And it sounds like you do to.  You worry,...we all do.  But I'm going to say...good job momma!  Sounds to me like your raising a little sweetheart.  Stop it if you must, but honestly...I don't think there is anything to be concerned about.