Toddler memory?

I have been very close and involved with my 2 grandsons (ages 2 and 3), until recently, when their parents were reported to CPS for neglect (by my sister).  Unfortunately my daughter and SIL believe that I am the one who reported them, and are no longer allowing me to be anywhere near the children.  Does anyone think the children will remember me in the years to come?  I believe they will forget me very quickly and it just breaks my heart to think they now have no one to comfort them in their young and rough lives.

[Trialanderror]

That`s a sad story. Hope you can clarify the situation with your grandsons` parents first, just drop them a note that you were not the one who reported them and would rather continue to support them by continuing to see the grandsons. At least then your heart will be a tiny bit lighter even if they do not take the offer. I know you do not want to blackmail your sister either but you could keep it very neutral...?
As for toddler memory - they may react "out of sight, out of mind" but when they see someone who dearly took care of them, even after years, the memory does come back, especially if there are a few photographs around. The problem is rather that they do not understand why the person disappeared from their lives to begin with - and there is some disappointment and anger involved once they meet again. Hopefully the boys are not in danger, I wonder if you could leave your contact information with one of your grandsons` neighbors? How else would they know you are still out there to be there for them... Best of luck.

[RockRose]

This is kind of complicated.  Did your sister report child abuse and neglect that you should have reported yourself but didn't?   In that case,  work with the system to get visitation when CPS sanctions them and maybe even removes them from the parent's custody.

OR,  is your sister crazy and made up things that aren't true?  In that case,  call CPS and tell the you are willing to offer proof and sworn statements that your sister is lying,  that there is no neglect and abuse,  and that will help clear things up for them and they'll probably realize it wasn't you.

To answer your question,  yes,  at least the 2 year old will probably forget you fairly quickly.  Three,  probably not so quickly.