Very Confused

[confuzedmom]

My 5 year old son was caught by my friend with his pants down and her 5 year old daughters pants down & they were touching each others privates. I know that the first reaction is that the child may have seen it somewhere but my son only watches Noggin (preschool on TV) with my 3 year old son. I do not allow them to watch regular adult television programs. My friend also only saw my Son touching her daughter. I asked my son what happened and he told me it was his idea to take their pants off and that they touched each other. My friend and I will probably never have the same friendship because i get the feeling that she sees my son as the aggresser because he told her daughter to take her pants off. My son told me he knew it was wrong but he saw things in his head and couldn't help it. My son has been doing lots of things that are not like him and blaming it on the things he sees in his head ex: cutting a wire that was hanging, ripping papers that i was saving, pushing his brother or fighting. I know that every parent will defend their own child but I think that all children are curious and I nor my friend have ever spoken to our children bout the actual differences between a boy and girl just that we are different. My 5 year old is very intelligent and her 5 year old had speech dificulties and because of this she has stated that my child is more advanced and should have known better. I feel that my child shouldn't be punished for being smart. I don't know if this is normal behavior and am thinking bout seriously taking him to see a therapist. he refuses to speak to me and only wants to talk with his dad that is not in the picture. Please help I don't know what to do. I was not prepared to deal with this so soon. Is My child showing signs of being a pervert?

[MotherMo]

As far as I'm concerned, this is normal for young children. They're curious about things. I remember doing stuff like that when I was a child. I also remember getting caught a couple times. My mother would have a talk with me about my behavior and I would feel guilty afterwards but that didn't stop me from doing it again. I soon grew out of it. I'm not saying you should ignore it but don't get too stressed about it. I hope your friend doesn't let something like this get in the way of your friendship. I would recommend supervised playing from now on.

[Michele47]

I am going through the same thing with my son. He's extremely bright, exceeds in sports and this has been an issue for over a year now. twice he was caught and both tmes confided in me as his mom. I feel really quilty when telling his father who is all about discipline (not hitting but yelling and punishing and frankly chastising) but I feel like this is something I should not keep from his father. He asked me today if Santa still brings him presents if he does something once and never again. It broke my heart so bad I had to turn around on my way to work just because I needed to think. His father is way into porn and I've asked him if my son could have seen  magazine or something and of course gets all defensive. I am very careful about what he watches. I told him today that boys are curious there is nothng wrong with you but I know that he is  the instigatr in these situations.

[teddybears4ever2]

I know that is very had to understand but many child are interested in each other's body's.  Explain to him it was wrong and why it was wrong.  You shouldn't let things like this ruin a perfectly good friendship that you have with the other mom.
Kids are very interested in many things at a very young age.  Say something like I'll explain it to you when you are a little older.  Have your son learn why that was wrong, and it is in the mistakes that the children learn the most from.