Violation of rights

I am currently in court with my ex wife four two years.  I have been fighting to try to get visitation with my two daughters.  After a forensic evaluation, a therapuetic evaluation,even supervised visitation my ex has found the way to mainipulate the system and has completely turned my daughters against me.  Everytime I found a way to reestablish my relationship with them she found anaother way of destroying it.  Her latest twist now after I decided to file for custody was to say that I sexually abused my daughters and now there is an ACS case open against me which I know it will be unfounded.  But since all these things have been placed in my daughters heads I do not know how to talk to them anymore.  I have been given supervised visitation again with my daughters but this time with the maternal grandmother from my ex side being there.  They claimed that my last supervised visitation was not valid because Safe horizon do not qualify to determine how parent and children interact.  My question to the forum is how can I communicate with my daughters again and what type of affect will this have on them in the long run.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

There is no way to say how these events will influence your daughters down the road. This will depend on what happens as things proceed. Regardless of what has already happened, your immediate course with them is plain: you must be the best possible parent you can be while you are with them. There is no need for you to address the other matters; it can only lead to problems. The focus for you and them, as you 'visit' them, is to pay attention to the here-and-now and always take the high road. There is no need, nor would it be helpful, to speak about their mother. Focus on what they have been doing each day, and on what is taking place during the contact. You can't go wrong if you adopt that focus.

[Kif]

The great thing about kids is that they turn into adults. Adults are far more capable of seeing the ways in which parents are actually fallible human beings with emotional agendas of their own.

In every interaction you have with your daughters, knowing that you are their model of manhood, keep that adult woman in mind. What will this woman remember of her childhood? Whether or not they ever understand fully what happened with your relationship with their mother and the resulting fallout, the one thing they should remember 100% is that you were always trying, regardless. There never came any point where it all became too much for them not to be worth the effort and hassle.

[staloner]

The ammount of "heresay" testimony allowed in the Family Law Courts is staggering. Until this issue is resolved and these women have to show some proof of their allegations then our society will continue its downward spiral. The courts themselves are creating more angry males.