Welcome to the child behavior community!

[supermomma531]

Welcome to our child behavior community! I am your child behavior community leader. Anyone who has children or who has had some sort of experience with children, all know that children have different behaviors. There are no two children alike. There are many different topics that have been or can be covered in discussions, do not be afraid to ask any type of question. I am sure that someone on here can help to find a answer. As parents or caregivers, we all need to be supportive of each other. I personally have 3 children, ages 10 years old,7 years old, and 15 months old. I come onto this site quite often looking for information to help me with my children. I am on this site almost everyday. If you have any questions or concerns about your own situations, there are many different forums that have tons of advice as well as doctors who are regularly on here to answer any type of question or concern you may have. I hope to meet many of you parents, grandparents, or caregivers over time and I hope that we all can help each other out. I know from my own experiences, parenting is the toughest "job" that I have ever done. If anyone out here has any kind of information on any type of child behavior, I personally would really appreciate it! If you have any questions that you would like to ask me personally, you are welcomed to send me questions or concerns to my site. I am always traveling through the different forums. I am always willing to learn new techniques, or information that I have never heard of or seen before. New ideas are always welcome!!

[Isabe11a]

Thank you. I have a cousin who's 12 and still wets his bed at nights. We have tried to make change in his routine. He goes to bed at 10 yet he has the problem any suggestions?

[benab]

hi. my nephew is 10 yrs old and wont stop biting his fingers. they bleed and are getting infected but this doesnt stop him. he is autistic and non-verbal. we have been told its anxiety but dont know how to deal with this. i would be really grateful if you could give me some advice on how to deal with this. thank-you..

[Sandman2]

   thank you :)

[Sandman2]

   I noticed that only the last two posts are listed on a topic.  I tend to forget who I have posted to and am used to going down and looking for my name.  If I don't see it, I don't check out the post (there are many topics, that I am not prepared to answer).  So I am worried, that I might miss a follow up question.

[Tricia1021]

Thank you for the welcom.This is my first time turning to a website but no one else will help. I posted my situation and really hope i can get help or advise.I dont know what more to do. PlEASE HELP..

[nanoo199]

thank you so much for welcoming
please i post a question a few days ago,and i need your help very urgent
thank u

[youdontmind]

Thank you for your interesting welcome! ...  It is important to know more than we know about children because they are like "The Pandora´s box" ... And Im here to learn about them. Thank you again.

[CVCoWGRL]

My 4 year old is about to be 5 gives very detailed discriptions or how he is going to kill someone or HURT them in some way ... I have told him he cdan't speak that way and yet he gets worst and now he is taking that to school he told a little girl that he was going to kill her mom and then hit her in the stomach if I cant get him to stop he will be kicked out of  school  he is in Pre-K where did this come from ???   he's been doing this sence he was like late 2 to early 3 .. the 1st time I heard him I was shocked and I spanked him for it but my hubby said he threatened him and his older brother then was found with a stake knife ... can CD really be that bad??? at first I thought he had odd but he steals others things with the behavior of odd  so is it CD or is it something eles? I am getting scared for those others in our home and now for the children at his school

[kimx5]

my 5 month old does absolutely nothing is this normal he doent try to sit he just flops he doesnt try to hold a bottle he doesnt try to copy noises he cries alot because he is tongue tied but he is so persistant he wont try to hold things really HE JUST LAYS THERE !

[Mommy_with_Concerns]

My 5 year old has a very bad habbit of biting her nails! She bites them so much that she has made her fingers bleed a time or two. I don't know if I should ignore this and hope it passes or fight the battle. We have talked about germs and health concerns with doing this but it is not working. HELP!
She also has a bad habbit of "holding it" instead of using the bathroom. We have talked about this too and when I think we are making progress I feel like we are back to square one. She does not have accidents or anything like that but I woud love some advice on this! Thanks!!

[linzib]

hi i have posted a question and nobody has commented please could u help...my 2 year old daughter keeps pulling her hair out and eating it, and i have not got a clue why...please help me

[leahcrumbaugh]

My son is 2 1/2 yrs old and is not talking much and has a small vocabulary of maybe 8-10 words. Have been working wiht him since he said mom and dad been trying to get him to say simple words like My, Dog, Cat and other words like that. But when we work iwth himhe gets frusterated and doesnt like to look at us we have to hold his head in our direction to keep his eye contact.  We are starting to worry that he has signs of autism or something else may be wrong.. He did have fluid in his right ear when he was born and has had multiple ear infections since then but had tubes put in in Jan of 2010. He still doesnt seem to be getting any better with vocabulary/sentences. Hes a very smart boy knows what everything is just won't say it. We work on numbers and letters with him and even mix them up and he can show us which one is which and gets them right but just can't say them. And it's starting to worry us.. Any ideas

[dave213]

Hi Thanks for your welcome:

I have a 21/2 year old son who is not very sociable and cries when he see stranger and hears loud noises.  He also has a difficult time seperating from mysel and my wife.  Is there anything wrong with this type of behavior and possibly showing signs of a mental or emotional illness.?

Regards,

Dave.

[funnybfreak]

I have a small daycare of five children in my home. 4 boys and 1 girl but my daughter(6 years old) comes and goes and plays with them also but one particular little boy hes 3 years old is obsessed with her he wants her all to him self but when shes playing with the other kids he lashes out to her and he shuts down and doesnt want to play with anybody else except her. It seems like he wants control over her its like an obession its very scary

[wonderwytch]

hi,my son has recently over the past 2 yrs has developed behaivoural problems. he seems to have no interest in anything. all he seems to do is run around the house all day throwin his toys around and even when i take him out or play with him for hours on end he dosnt seem to tire and basically wants my attention constantly. he does everything he knows he mustnt especially if im on the phone or making a drink and shouting at me. he is really hard work and he tires me out all the time i really dnt knw what to do with him. he has recently turned very spiteful with it and the school arre also havin probs with his behaviour! i have tried rewarding him when hes good and taking things off him when he  bad,,but now it dosnt work anymore as there is nothin tht i can take from him when he misbehaves coz he dosnt seem to care anymore.. he is out of control and hes only 7. ive even tried sitin him in a corner on his own when hes been bad but he wont stay there and i cant keep him there as he knws he can outrun me. then he just laughs and be really silly. he is pushin boundaries all the time with me and really neds discipline of some sort. i was thinkin about cadets but im not sure he is old enough yet and maybe cubs? what do u reckon? do u think this could help? i am quite concerned why hes so spiteful all of a sudden he seems to find even hurtin me or oter ppl funny,he is also hittin children in school and is showing bad manners in and out of school.. is this my fault? am i doing sumthin wrong? all i knw is ive tried everything but nothin seems to be working. i am really at the end of my tether and im strtin to get depressed with it too. i just dnt knw what to do,i dont have supportive family neithr who could possibly take him off my hands for a day or 2 while i regain my energy,so its constant all the time and im tired all the time too which is makin me emotional. hes even up in the nights bein troublesome. like he will get out i of the bed and pee hiself right outside the toilet door. then when he is up he nevr wants to go bak to bed so then theres more shouting and screaming. i really dont knw what to do. i am bookin him into docs next week to be assesed for adhd. i think sumthing like cadets would be good way to disipline him before its too  late,as hes  big boy too. i welcome any advise on this matter.

[stressedmommy2]

Hi, my daughter is 3 months premature and is almost three but is a little delayed but I have been trying to potty train her for four months now and it seems she still don't understand and her Therapist program is putting her in pre-school this coming school year....what if she is not potty trained by then do they still let them attend you think or do i need to work on this issue harder?

[redmomma06]

Thank you for the warm welcome!! I just signed up today and have all ready post a question...twice (oops!).  If you could help me that would be the greatest!! I'm at my wits end with my son!! If it wasn't so cold outside, I'd probably be running around out back screaming and pulling my hair!! LOL!

[JSMom315]

This is the very first group like this I have ever engaged.  Thank you for the leadership and support.  

Regards,

JSMom315

[meme04]

Thanks for the welcome.  I am 51 an troubled by my grandson's tantrums.  My daughter does not want to medicate him.  I don't blame her, he is very defiant with her and when he gets comfortable with someone acts out.  I would hate to see him get older and end up kicked out of school or put in a home for troubled boys.  my daughter is raising him alone and works nights and weekends.  He is with his other grandmother alot.  I am just concerned that he continues to be bad and told he is bad all the time that he will continue to be BAD.  Please any suggestkions will help.

[Justneedhelp85]

Thank you so so much for your advise. I spoke to her and showed her pictures for some children that have been taken. So hopefully it will sink in. Its just a really scary world out there and i just don't want to be one of the poor families out there that loses a child. I just want the best for my lil girl and for her to be safe

[supermomma531]

To be honest with you, I am quite surprised that the bus companies and the schools would allow the kids to get off where ever they feel like it. It used to be like that here in Canada but that was changed years ago. How scary for you, I'm so sorry that you've had to endure this!

I think that the only way to get through to her is constantly reminding her about how dangerous it is to not come straight home. How dangerous it is to get onto another bus and go home with someone else without your permission. Be honest with her and tell her how scared you really are about her choices. I would keep on the path of punishing her for even attempting to do it.This may be the only way you can get through to her. Make her sit on time out thinking about her actions and making her talk to you about the whole stranger idea and making her really think about the whole situation. You have to be honest, forthcoming and very blunt about the whole situation. Children of her age tend not to think about consequences under situations. They really do not have the ability to think critically about a situation. This is why we have to take the initiative right from the start to teach them right from wrong. I don't know how strict you are or how your method of raising her but I'm sure that you're doing well and she is listening. If you can be blunt and honest with her about anything, show her all the pictures from child find and tell her about some of these children who are missing because they may have decided to go home with a friend from school or a person they thought they knew and have never come home. If she were my daughter, I would tell her about Victoria Stafford and how she never went home like she was suppose to, and how she went with someone else instead and now is not alive anymore. Or about any other child that may never have come home because of their choice to talk to a stranger. This is what I would do with my children. I have done this with my children.  I am constantly speaking to them about not talking to strangers and what could happen if they did. Let her know that the only time she is aloud to go to a friends house is only with your permission and you have to know these people first. I hope this helps you a lot. I know how you feel about your child going home with a friend and not telling you about it. My daughter has done it as well. Luckily for me I knew the family. But my daughter did get into huge trouble for her wrong choice!

[Justneedhelp85]

My little girl is 5. She started school this year, she has settled in really well, made heaps of friend. In June of this year she got on a bus and went to a friends place instead of going to afterschool care where she should have been. I was lucky i knew the family. I punished her for that as i needed her to know that what she did was wrong and very dangerous. I thought that she had learnt from that incident. But she didn't. I had made plans with a friends mum that she would go over on the Wed and that was fine. I got a phone call this afternoon on my way home from work saying that she was still at the school missed her bus and had thought she was ment to go to her friends place today. We got home we spoke about the day and then i asked what happened and she said" Well we made the decision that i would go today not tomorrow". Now i am scared how do i deal with it. I thought that i got through to her the first time. I'm scared that she is going to make the wrong decision one day and i never see her again. PLEASE I NEED HELP!!!!

[supermomma531]

Your son will eventually potty train but with some children, they will seem to do well for a while but then all of a sudden be afraid to do something. A lot of children seem to become afraid of using the potty. I have no clue why they would be afraid of something like this. Also sometimes children will put a stop to potty training as this is really the only thing that they can control and I believe that they do this for attention. Some kids aren't interested in toys. I would let him play with boxes or whatever it is he is playing with so long as he isn't in danger. Children need to be able to use their imagination and that to me seems to come from playing with boxes and playing games like house or store or doctor or what ever it is they are playing. Maybe he is a outdoors persons into playing soccer, baseball, football or anything else that is sporty. This is a great way to expend his energy. He'll play with toys when he is ready to. All you can do is keep offering outside time at a park or kicking a ball around a field or reading books with him. Remember his brain is just like a sponge and this is the most precious time for him to learn the most. Maybe try to introduce him to stuff that you like doing or liked as a kid. Maybe he'll do some baking or cooking with you and he could help mix stuff in a bowl or wash vegetables and fruits. Go to the library with him and check out the books and play groups there. Try rewarding him for good behavior and using the potty with a reward chart and stickers or ink stamps. This will give him the feeling of accomplishing things for himself. I wish you the best of luck. Also remember, work on one thing at a time like potty training and make things fun for him. Kids tend to respond really well to fun.  

[grace1987121]

i have a son whos going to be 3, he wont play with toys on his own r even with other kids.it is starting to worry me as he is going to nursery next year. also he has temper tautrams all the time i have tried everything to get him out of this, he will throw things, scream at me, hit people, and thinks its funny. also have tried potty training him he was doing really well going by himself and now if u ask him 2 sit on his potty he starts a temper tautram so i end up leaving it. however i need help as i need him potty trained before next year HELP HELP!