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What happens after diagnosis- how does it improve situation
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What happens after diagnosis- how does it improve situation
by cadra, Nov 02, 2009 01:37PM
My son has had problems in school since pre-k. He just didn’t seem to learn much there so I had to simultaneously homeschool him every day, redo all his incomplete assignments, study with him for exams. He has started middle school this year and they noticed right away that something is wrong. He still doesn't copy his homework right, doesn't follow directions, doesn’t complete classwork.
At this point I am a wreck. It took so much effort & often yelling to push him all these years through school & sometimes I was mean & then I was upset at myself but I didn't want him to repeat any grade so I tried so hard to make things right. I don't think I can continue teaching him at home, it's middle school now & I am not a teacher & all this time I feel like I was forcing him to study.
When he has to do homework, it’s as if he is losing energy, he has a headache, tummyache- he just doesn't want to do it. Anyway, this middle school has just had my son evaluated & we are waiting for results & I know they will find something is wrong. I checked some symptoms of dyslexia online & most of them apply & maybe there is something else as well. I have a few questions:
(1) once the diagnosis comes, what is it going to change and will it improve our life? I know it will make things worse for my son as far as his social life is concerned - I mean, if he gets moved to a special education class he will lose his friends -I heard them talk bad about kids from special education classes.
(2) will I be finally relieved from teaching him at home? I just cannot imagine how he can learn in any class, special or not - @ home I have to refocus him every few minutes - Special education or not - he will still have to pass tests - so that means that I would have to continue teaching him, am I correct?
My greatest fear is that if I stop teaching him he will drop out of school. I cannot afford any private tutor. Sorry for the long post and I hope someone can answer my questions.
At this point I am a wreck. It took so much effort & often yelling to push him all these years through school & sometimes I was mean & then I was upset at myself but I didn't want him to repeat any grade so I tried so hard to make things right. I don't think I can continue teaching him at home, it's middle school now & I am not a teacher & all this time I feel like I was forcing him to study.
When he has to do homework, it’s as if he is losing energy, he has a headache, tummyache- he just doesn't want to do it. Anyway, this middle school has just had my son evaluated & we are waiting for results & I know they will find something is wrong. I checked some symptoms of dyslexia online & most of them apply & maybe there is something else as well. I have a few questions:
(1) once the diagnosis comes, what is it going to change and will it improve our life? I know it will make things worse for my son as far as his social life is concerned - I mean, if he gets moved to a special education class he will lose his friends -I heard them talk bad about kids from special education classes.
(2) will I be finally relieved from teaching him at home? I just cannot imagine how he can learn in any class, special or not - @ home I have to refocus him every few minutes - Special education or not - he will still have to pass tests - so that means that I would have to continue teaching him, am I correct?
My greatest fear is that if I stop teaching him he will drop out of school. I cannot afford any private tutor. Sorry for the long post and I hope someone can answer my questions.
Member Comments (1)
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Nov 03, 2009 04:01AM
, Nov 03, 2009 04:01AM
If indeed your son displays some type of learning disability a plan (individualized Education Program - IEP) will be developed to address his problems. Some form(s) of additional help will be provided to him. This type of evaluation should have been done years ago, but that is now water over the dam, so to speak, and all that can be done at this point is to get him the sort of help he needs.
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