What is the best way to handle it?

[Haremiliana]

My daughter got back her mid year exam paper on Monday, she failed all her subject badly I'm not sure how to teach her I've sent her to extra classes, she not dyslexia. She have the second lowest position in class the boy who's the lowest will be transfered to another school I don't want her to be transfered and I don't want her to have impairity complex according to her all those who passed were ask to stand infront of the class,they were applaused and they congratulated while those who failed were ask to stand infront of the class and being ask 'TO BUCK UP!' Please tell me what to do thanks....

[jd1419]

By reading your post---maybe she is learning by example--but for the school to have the ones that did not pass stand up and say BUCK UP--that is not correct either.  The school should not be the place where children who are not passing are singled out and shown how they fail.  The school needs to be proactive in helping your child to acheive her goals and to be able to understand what is being taught.  Yes, later on in life your child will need all the support and guidance from her parents to study and  to pass her tests on her own---what are her study habits like?  Does she understand and retain what she reads?  She may need testing to see if she does understand what she is looking at.  Just because she is not dyslexic does not mean she does not have another form of a learning disability.

Good Luck--and I would contact the school board for your school and let them know what happened...this would be a form of bullying which I believe all schools are trying to aleviate--why would they make issures for kids to be picked on even more.

[Haremiliana]

Thank you very much for your posting, as you said 'she learning by example' you're right she is, as she is a nice, thoughtful and helpful girl. As for what happened, in the class I let my daughter think it in a positive way which it doesn't mean to demoralise her but to make her work harder and to show others that she can make it and prove them wrong. Thanks once again.  

[jdtm]

Is there a referral team in place at your school that could take a closer look at the needs of your daughter and offer suggestions? Perhaps your daughter may need to be assessed for a learning disability.  Perhaps she might require an IEP.  I would certainly "push" for these services and testing as it appears your daughter  requires additional help with her studies.  The school principal would be the first person to contact re these services as it is the school's responsibility to see to adequate instruction for all children (even if it means a transfer).

As for the "bullying" aspect of being humiliated in front of the class, this is inexcusable.  I would suggest you first speak to the principal about this behaviour and if you get no satisfaction, then you need to speak to the superintendent or Board or whoever is the supervisor of the principal.  

[Haremiliana]

Thank you very much for your advise, I would definitely discuss the matter with the school. Thank once again.