What is wrong with Me

I just returned from Iraq about two months ago.  I am feeling very inadequate about my parenting.  I stay at home with my son because I came home to behavioral issues.  I want to give him away sometimes.  I feel like I cannot handle him and that I am not a good enough mother.  I also feel like I am not me anymore.  I have asked my parents to take him so I could get a few weeks of me time,  but every time I feel like a bad mother, and they say no.  I have had thoughts of giving him to his father.  my parents say that is unfair to them.  I am aware that i gave birth to him, and he is mine, and i am therefore responsible, but I am all alone in this parenting thing and just getting back from iraq, i dont' think i have th emindset to do it.  So is it in my childs best interest hat I suck it up and do it, or is it in his best interest to give him away, I love my son more than anything in the world right now, andI dont' think im being a very good mom.

[91004]

Maybe you should go see a therapist if you are not already. he is probally having problems because you were away and now your back. I am assuming he wasnt with you while you were away who had him while you were gone.

[margypops]

As you said yes you " suck it up" it will take a little time , your parents are correct to get to know him again you two have to hang out a lot and have some fun, it is hard adjusting and I guess you have been through Trauma , dont give him away he needs you ,it will happen truly ,give him lots of positive attention talk to him , lots of outside activities and sports, lots of good Moms are single Moms , you care or you wouldnt come here for an opinion, how old is he , get to know him again .Come back and tell us how you are doing , remember go and have some Fun make some Mom friends with children the same age.

[SeriousSam]

" I have had thoughts of giving him to his father.  my parents say that is unfair to them."

Honestly why wasn't he with dad while you were gone?  As I understand it weren't you supposed to as a single parent supposed to give guardianship over to someone else when you enlisted/deployed?

[margypops]

Your son would certainly benefit fom having both parents in his life and if you really cannot look after him ask his Dad to take him ,however he needs you in his life aswell so even if he lived with his Dad it would be good for you to have him every other week.

[SeriousSam]

Or preferably more!  As close to 50/50 as possible!

[margypops]

Yes 50 /50 would be great

[snglma]

I didn't mention that his father lives in FLA as I live in KS and has only seen my son twice.  Things are better now, with me, however my son has some issues that I feel I am ready to talk about, so I am posting a separate post titled HAS MY SON BEEN ABUSED?

[margypops]

Which Forum are you posting this there is an abuse forum, or here,  give the signs you have seen that may lead you to think he may have been abused.