Who do we contact for help ?

[nanny01]

Please forgive me if this is the wrong forum for my question, I tried other areas but they were not accepting new questions at the time. I am desperately trying to find help for two of my nephews. First, my six year old nephew started masturbating a couple months ago and it has gotten to the point now that he is going to be put in some type of isolated class at school because it is disruptive to the other children. When my mom (his grandmother) spoke to him about it and she told him he should not do this at school, he said he COULD NOT go all day without doing this. I can assure you there is no sexual abuse of any type going on. I will say that their family life is chaotic, my brother (the boys dad) is gone most of the time working and my sister in law loves them but is not a very good mother. They deal with things by yelling, screaming and ignoring them which only makes things worse. My mom says  that my nephew has obsessive compulsive tendencies so could this be an OCD behavior ?
My next question involves my 9 year old nephew who has been pooping in his pants and does not seem to be bothered by this. He will go around with it in his pants and lie about it and freak out when you try to confront him about it. He is on Risperdal and Strattera and my mom wondered if maybe the combination of these meds could cause him to behave this way ?
I would appreciate any help that anybody can give me. I have tried to find information on the web but am just really confused by everything that is out there. I know my nephews probably need to see someone but I do not know who or where to call. Thank you very much !!!

[supermomma531]

I agree with margypops but also have to add that since your brother is gone a lot, maybe the mother needs some extra help from somebody in the family. Someone to talk to or turn to when needed. The boys definitely need to go back to the prescribing doctor and get the proper treatment. Maybe for the 9 yr old, the meds may have to be changed and for the 6 yr old, he has to be looked at and he may need to be diagnosed but that' s for the doctor to decide. If you can talk to the mother to take these boys in and you could go with her for extra support, this would help a great deal. Tell mom to start keeping a diary of actions of each boy, how much they act out and stuff. Look for the meds the 9 yr old is on here on this site and look for the side effects. Record them and compare them to the boy' s actions. Good luck.

[margypops]

It would be a good start for the 9 year old ,  to go back to the prescribing Doctor about the meds as you say you have thoughts that they may not be helping with the issue so I would start there .I do agree that yelling ,and screaming are making things worse, it appears that there is a problem with the child /parent interaction, and some counselling help would be good, again I think the Doctor would have some ideas who to call to set it up.The issue of the 6 year old could be addressed at the same time Good Luck