My 10-year-old stepson is soiling his pants and I don't know why. I have two stepsons, 13 and 10-years-old and a 16-month-old baby boy of my own. He is and has been potty trained for AWHILE now and, he picks and chooses when he wants to soil his pants. It isn't a DAILY occurence but it does happen (bimonthly usually and sometimes nothing for 6 months at a time), and those are the times that we KNOW OF. It's frustrating because we have TRIED everything. His father and I have tried putting him on a toilet schedule, we have used diapers (he won't soil his pants when wearing diapers but the VERY next day after not having to wear them anymore, he does it yet again), using a reward system, a talking-to, grounding and spanking. And it ALL WORKS for awhile though and then, he's back to his old ways. And it's not because of me either - I know after all I am the EVIL STEPMOTHER, it must be MY FAULT but he's been doing this WAY before I ever came into the picture. I've been with his father since he was 6-years-old and he's been consistently soiling his pants ever since then and, really since being potty trained. When it does happen, it's usually when he's playing and his father and I think he's too LAZY to stop playing to find a restroom - now he's been holding it for too long and has no choice but to soil his pants. He doesn't only go #2 on himself but he also urinates on himself, it's less often though. He always lies about it too (for fear of getting into trouble) but seems unfazed when confronted with it. No guilt or shame. We make him wash his own underwear and, it doesn't matter - he's not grossed out AT ALL by it. Because this has gone on for 3 and a half years now. He gets into trouble at school too, usually for being a chatterbox and being out of his seat but also for inappropriate language (sexual), cursing, destruction of school property, etc. So, what do WE do? Any advice? Or is there anything that we can do?