Hello - I'm new to this forum and hope that it can help me out.
I have been married to my wife for over 8 years now and she has a 12-year-old boy from a previous marriage. We have since had a child together - a 3-year-old girl. For all of our 8 years, my stepson has always wanted to crawl in bed next to his mother and I have basically been asked to shut up about it. This is the one and only conflict my wife and I have, and I don't know what to do about it. I am uncomfortable with it because he's as tall as his mother and he is showing signs of hormonal development. When he was younger, it didn't bother me as much, but the older he gets, the more uncomfortable I become. If I bring it up, either nicely or not, it blows up into a fiasco and I end up rolling over and drooling for a period of time until I get fed up again. The point is, it is my bedroom also and I have no say-so on who comes in and when. It's not that my stepson is unwelcome, I just can't speak up if I don't want him to come in - it's always taken the "wrong way" and it's assumed that I have woken up grumpy.
I really want to resolve this matter once and for all, but I don't think my wife will budge on it. Any advice?