Hey Jooley, I just want to say that I have a neice that same age and the same similar incident happened to her. cps was called several times but nothing was done. The advice I can give to you is keep your neice with you as much as possible like thats your own child! since the parents arent smart enough or just really dont care enough, you have to be the smart one and take over. have her with you 24/7 (when possible) like your own child. thats what I have to do with my neice. and you should let the 7 year old know that your very much aware of whats going on and your not tolarating it. okay good luck!!
You should definetly try and convince your friends to bring the little girl to a ped. Children will not say anything to and outsider that could get thier family in trouble and at this point they know that Devon touching your niece is wrong. Violent behaviour like what Devon is doing is indicative of sexual abuse as well. Boys that have been abused also tend to like fire and burning things, does Devon also do this kind of stuff? I would try to convince the parents to at least bring him to a psycologist for his violent behaviour. An older kid or babysitter or someone could be hurting this boy and in turn he will sexually abuse other kids not knowing that it is wrong.
I suggest the family schedule an appointment with her Pediatrician - explain EVERYTHING to the Pediatrician and then let the Pediatrician examine the little girl. If the Pediatrician believes that the child has been assaulted, he or she is required by law to report the case to DCF - or other local child protective services.
Pam
Hi again, Well we just sat down the four of us to talk about the situation and they called the doctors on Friday to try and have her checked out and CPS was called on them. They showed up at the house and talked to everyone including my little niece. I live next door so I did see them there. I'm being told that the person that checked out the kids and talked to them told them that he didn't think that there was a problem that he had been doing this for a long time and he could not see anything to lead him to believe that she was being sexually abused. I don't know how all of you feel about this but I'm still thinking there is a serious problem here. Why would my niece be saying all this? I guess this week I will know more. Thanks for all your help and support.
Thank-You for all your support and help! It has been a VERY difficult week. I approached the mother yesterday and asked if she had taken my niece to the Dr. office yet and she said no.( I have not taken care of her since Tuesday) Well, I ended up giving her an earful! I keep getting the tomorrow story. My husband and myself are DISGUSTED by BOTH parents actions and have decided at this point if things are not taken care of we will take the next step including ending our friendship! My main intrest is in BOTH of the children and getting them the help they need and deserve! Thank-You again everyone.
But did you call CPS? This child needs help, as does the 7 year old.
Call. It's your responsibility.
I agree with the other posters....you need to contact child protective services. It's highly unlikely your niece is capable of making that story up, seeing as she is only 3 yrs. old. i'm a child/family therapist and have worked with victims of sexual abuse many times. More than likely, someone has also abused her older brother and it's quite possible he is still being abused. He's only 7, he learned it from someone. I'm in no way implying that your ex-brother in law or his wife is responsible for that...it could be anyone that devon has had contact with.
I know the parents in this case don't want to hear what's going on and they seem to be in denial...if you talk to them again about this, maybe point out that someone may also be hurting devon and as parents, wouldn't they want to know who is doing this?
You're in a tough position and there's no easy way out of this, but if you really care about your niece, this needs to be reported. Like the other posters said, your call to CYS can be anonymous. Good luck with everything and let us know how things turn out.
Call DCF. There are abuse hotlines for each state, and I am sure you can easily find the number. More should be done for this little girl than what these parents are doing. This child needs to see a doctor and she needs to be protected. The 7 year old needs to be held accountable for his actions, and he needs to be seen by a therapist. Also, you have no idea where the 7 year old would have learned this type of behavior - could someone be abusing him?
You could take her to the doctor because she is obviously very irritated in her vaginal area. Doctors are mandated child abuse reporters, and he/she will pick up the phone and make the report.
You are doing the right thing. Your niece needs you to be her advocate in this situation, and regardless of how the parents feel about this, you are putting her safety first. She needs you right now. Good luck!
You need to contact Child Protective Services (CPS) regarding the concerns that your niece is being sexually abused. As the source of this report, you will be anonymous meaning the CPS agency cannot identify you as the reporter. CPS will investigate this family and likely have Gianna examined regarding the allegations by a specialist in sexual abuse of children.
This familly is clearly in crisis as evidenced by the behavior of the son, Devon. They seem to be unwilling or unable to address his violent behavior and alleged sexual abuse of Gianna in even any kind of appropriate manner. No child should be allowed to be sexually abused and Gianna is very vulnerable because of her young age and the lack of competence of her parents. Devon needs help now due to his violent behavior and these allegations of sexual abuse of his sister. Please stand up for this child.