Help! My daughter just started Kindergarden this year and ever since she has been having MAJOR behavioral issues. According to her teacher she is extremely smart and because she is so advanced she is manipulating. Can a 5yr old really be manipulating?! She refuses to do her work in class, she throws temper tantrums in class and had become increasingly hostile towards her teachers and myself. She cannot focus other work, wants to run and play all day, cannot sit still in class, and wants to do everything on her terms. This morning I discovered she has been urinating in the bathroom trash can and bath tub. I have tried taking her toys away, not letting her watch tv, no play time, even writing lines (my mother made me do those when I was young and I hated them) when I noticed that wasn't really working I changed and started rewarding her for positive things. When she would use the bathroom correctly I would let her have a toy, when she behaves good at school she gets to watch one cartoon etc etc etc.
Last year we had an addition to the family. I kept her very involved in the process she came with me to doctors appointments helped pick out clothes and room decorations. I still keep her involved in everything to make sure she still gets enough attention now that she has a baby sister. Thankfully she isn't hostile towards her sister at all. In fact she is very protective of her and plays with her with no problems. When that baby was first born I had her see a behavior therapist to help cope with the changes to our family and she took it well.
I have contacted my insurance company and she will start to see a behavioral therapist next week. I have no idea what to do. I feel like such a failure as a parent. I have tried my best and I do not know what to do anymore. I'm starting to think it might be a physiological problem.
Have you ever had her evaluated by a child psychologist or psychistrist? There are a lot of red flags going up for ADD/ADHD, and actually, most children with ADD/ADHD start showing signs when school starts, as it is really the first controlled learning environment. It's also very typical to see a child with ADD act out, as they become very frustrated in the classroom setting.
That would be my recommendation, have her evaluated for that, or any other possible issue. If she is suffering with ADD, you will learn techniques to help her learn properly, the school will become involved also, to help her learn, with the challenges she faces. You will also learn the proper way of dealing with any related behavioral issues. Most ADD children will show improvements in their behavior, once the ADD is addressed properly.
Hi there. First, I want to tell you that very very many children have a rough transition to kindergarten. It's a tough year for a lot of children. I would keep that in mind and just sort through the problems looking for root causes.
It is very true that gifted childen have problems in traditional classrooms sometimes. That is something to consider. Have they benchmarked where she is at?? That is helpful in determining if this is contributing to the behavior problems at school.
I think you are vey smart to be investigating root causes with a behavioral therapist. I want to add something else into the mix of what you might be thinking about. That is sensory integration disorder. It looks very much like add/adhd as both are nervous system issues. Does your daughter have a lot of issues at home as well (as add/adhd must show itself in more than one place). Sensory is more likely to surface in school only or under certain circumstances such as crowds, parties, etc. We see an occupational therapist for my sons sensory needs which has been a god send. They work on behavioral modification and sensory activities that work directly on slowing down his nervous system and helping him stay organized and focused. Something to think about.
You sound like you are on the right track to look at why she is acting out in school. It could possibly just be adjustment, immaturity as well.
When is your daughter's birthday by the way? Is she young for her class??
Also, any type of punishment for undesirable behavior must take place at the time of the offense. Punishing after school is too late. So you will need to work with the teacher for what they are doing when the deeds occur.
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