My 6 year step daughter is unusually comfortable with being naked around myself, her 9 year old brother and father. I imagine its the same at her Mom's place where her boyfriends wife lives and he is usually there. She has also been "wiggling" in the bathtub rubbing her genitalia on the side of the bath tub. My husband asked her bio Mom about it and she replied that she used to "wiggle" when she was that age. I'm very concerned about my step daughter's well-being and am extremely frustrated with the "system". We have called before indicating other inappropriate behaviors, such as touching herself, to no avail. Just called today about the "wiggling" and was unable to open a case. I have been sexually abused myself, by a neighbor girl, touching my privates and have had a terrible existence because of it. Being sexualized at such a young age set me up for a range of dysfunctional thinking and terrible self esteem issues. I have the kids in therapy and the therapist says she cannot do anything. Kids don't learn to do things like that without an adult showing them. The state did open a case today because the kids have told us that their bio Moms boyfriend smokes weed. I'm upset that I feel powerless over their well being and the continued torture that is ongoing at their Mom's place. We do not have money to hire a lawyer and take custody of them and am unsure when that will, if ever, happen. Please let me know your thoughts or experience's so I may have a better idea of what I'm dealing with. Thanks-Nicole
You can't get so hung up on children masturbating. It's a normal thing. Any competent pediatrician would tell you it is normal for children to go through a stage where they rub themselves. If you try to stop kids from doing this and tell them they are doing something bad you are setting a terrible example. You are teaching them that natural desires are bad and disgusting. That your genitals are dirty. We should teach our children to be proud of their bodies, to be proud of their sexuality. Perhaps we wouldn't have so many repressed people if we did this. We also probably wouldn't have so many slutty kids if we taught them this too. Explain to her that she has to be private about it and go in the bathroom or bedroom alone.
My daughter rubs herself on the tub. She shuts the door and stays in there by herself. I have never once told her not to do this. My DH also does not have a problem with this as long as she does it privately. I explained to her that it was ok and she doesn't act like she is embarrassed. We are the only ones who watch her right now so I know she's not being abused. It's not possible. Please lighten up.
I too have a step daughter 5.5 years old and she's been obsessed with this since she was 2 i mean its constant wherever we go she's legs spread rubbing herself and many times she's been adamant about wanting me or my husband to look at her down there. Or she's showed my 4 year old son and told him to keep it a secret. Ahhhh! Idk how this behavior can be normal? I am soooooo uncomfortable that I have to see her do this 6-10 Xs per day. It's embarrassing honestly. And I wish this habit would go away. I feel like she's gonna grow up to be a sex addict since this started at age 2 and has gotten far worse each weekend that she comes over. Another issue I have is she likes to moan.. Eeeekkkkkk Call me a prude but I just can't get myself to accept this. At this point I'd rather be gone every weekend that she's here to visit. It just can't be normal for that age.
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