agressive behavior problems

My son is turning 5 this month.  At 16 months he had a seizure for over 45 minutes.  This caused behavior delays, speech and social mainly.   Over the next few years he's contiuned tohave seizures but mostly controled by medicine. The doctors stay that they do not have a reason for the seizures.

He's finally learned to talk enough that I can understand him.   I'd say the vocabulary of a 3-4 year old.  He is a very big and very strong.  He takes normal actions that kids his age do to the next level.  He is agressive to his friends by pushing, taking toys, bitting, hitting, kicking and if he gets mad he'll spit and throw things.  Oh he'll also pinch, which leaves bruises.   He's been asked to leave 2 day cares and I'm guessing a third soon.   He drools and needs to be reminded to swallow all the time.  He knows his colors, numbers, can put puzzles together, climb, write some of his letters, follow ........   Several of the skill necessary to go into kindergaten but we have decided not to send him at this time.  Socially he is not ready and needs to work on the other skills especially since he would be a young kindergartener.   He can't sit in circle time the entire time and always wants to touch everyone either with his hands, feet and even his tounge.   Yes he is very ornery and sometimes a normal little boy who can be the sweetest child.  He is very loving and will cuddle, read books and play.   He wants things to be a certain way, usually his way and doesn't seem to understand (or not wanting to understand) letting others do things their way.   He chews on his clothes and likes the seams in clothes.  His reaction to a situation can be whinning and normal temper tantrum or he'll explode and be dangerous to himself and others by his actions.   When he's mad he's even bit himself.

He does not know a stranger and will go up to anyone and hug them or hit them for no reason.  He thinks it's funny to get a reaction.   I can see some of the things he does a way to get attention.  But somethings he does floor me and his early childhood teachers, through the school district, do not have an answer nor can they find a pattern to his behavior.  

any suggestions?

[margypops]

See more Docs I cant believe these dont have answers, seek more help for him, also sounds as if noone has shown him how he can behave and not behave , he probably would o well with some sports and physical activity as he is a big Guy, maybe an outlet for energy,He sound frustrated aswell hence the chewing etc, how do you handle him and is there a Dad somewhere if there is, get him involved with some quality time of Ball throwing,soccer, guy stuff.It wont hurt to give him a ton of attention .

[KAnneH]

I can't believe your doctor hasn't provided more information regarding your son's behavior and seizures.  My suggestion would be to seek out another doctor ASAP!!  There must be a reason for all that is going on with your son. Sounds like there is enough symptomatic behavior that SOMETHING can be diagnosed here.  Many of the behaviors you have described fall under Autism Spectrum Disorder.  Has his doctor mentioned this to you before?

Good luck!