agressive behavior

My son Ashton just turned 2 years old. he has been extremely energetic since before birth! he rumbled and tumbled in my belly all the time.  I am a stay at home mom.  I always have had to chase him to change his diaper, clothes, and put his shoes on.  Now, he has been very agressive with his sister and stepsisters in the past few months. He will hit them for no reason at all.  He has a puppy that he obviously loves very much but he holds her so tight from her neck ( not choking her purposely) , pulls her by her ears, and when he is done he throws her.  His dad and I try timeout, scolding, and yes sometimes spanking or a pat on his hand when he pulls the girls hair. We have tried talking to him and telling him nicely that what he is doing is not nice and that he should apologize but he never stands still long enough for us to show him the difference. NOTHING works!  We are at our wits end, we have gotten kicked out of places because of his behavior and are quite embarrassed when he screams and throws a major temper tantrum.  What can we do? what is the reason he could be acting this way? oh and he DOES NOT like to share! please help!!!


Stressed out mommy


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[babygirl6152]

It's normal for him to push you all to see how far you will let this go- it is also normal for you to start disciplining him/training him to listen to an adult's voice-

I don't know why you can't just make him stand still- and listen for a few seconds- you hold him and say "Listen to me", are you afraid to hold him or touch him- do you feel like you should not restrain him?  I think there are some parents that aren't prepared for a child like this and you just have to realize he needs to be handled a bit, til he gets the idea he is the child and you are an adult that cares about him and making him obey and respect that other people have feelings. He is just at the age where he is between knowing that ha can hurt others (as well as animals).
I think you need to get hold of this and learn to show loving authority.... just takes practice- and believe it or not- a 2 year old wants these boundaries- do him a favor- give him some to abide by- in loving firmness.

BTW h e is too young for a puppy/ at the very least don't let him be alone with animals until he learns to be gentle.