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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
almost 4 year old refusing to go potty
Answered by
Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D. - Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Crisis Intervention
Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
This forum is for questions and support regarding child behavior issues such: Child Discipline (behavior management), Normal Child Development, Parent-Child Communications, Social Development
almost 4 year old refusing to go potty
by hipmamma, Jun 06, 2003 12:00AM
my youngest son will be 4 in august and is extremely stong-willed. i have offered every possible reward but have to wrestle for him to even sit on the potty. he will hold it until i am not around him and then urinate in his underwear. he is very intelligent so there is no concern that he doesn't understand. he will watch his daddy and brother but refuses to participate. i have tried letting him run naked - pee on a cheerio - i will buy you a car (just kidding) but nothing works. he most recently struggled against sitting on the potty then held his penis crying "i don't want to go pee in the potty".
any ideas???????
any ideas???????
Doctor's Answer
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Jun 06, 2003 12:00AM
, Jun 06, 2003 12:00AM
In general it sounds like you're being patient, which is the right thing to do. I'd usually suggest simply continuing what you're doing. But, I have the sense, even from your brief description, that he's harboring some particular fear/worry that is worth investigating. Ask him: "The other day, I noticed you were holding onto your penis and not wanting to use the potty. Is something the matter? What do you suppose would happen?" See what he thinks.
Member Comments (3)
by justme§thedog, Jun 06, 2003 12:00AM
Do you mean a 'potty', or the toilet? My son totally refused the potty and insisted on using the toilet - and refused to sit at all. If it's a potty that you're trying to train him on, perhaps get him a stool and allow him to try standing like a 'big boy, just like his dad and older brothers' for the toilet.
by colep_2003, Jun 20, 2003 12:00AM
i would try the others user about the Toilate, if that dont work, tell him to wear a pull-up, if He wont participate in the activity, why waste time on laundry? if he refuses it, just put a diaper on him, Tape it if he takes it off...it sounds like you tryed, tell him to come to you when hes ready to participate.
