almost 9yr old daughter acting like 4yr old

[aroze4mom2]

she is in general a good child, she does get card changes at school for talking a lot (there dicipline) but at home she makes silly faces like she thinks she is funny and its completely innaproperate, she is acting silly or baby-ish i love her but she annoys my so much by this behavior she is the middle child of 5 children the oldest girl and is fine when her friends are around but she will ask to sit next to us and the pet us like a animal when i tell her not to do that she stops that and starts another action, when i ask for her help she yells and says she cant noone will help her. or that she didnt make the mess or doesnt ever get to do something just weird i thought it was middle child syndrome for a while but even with her getting more attention she is actually acting worse... what to do.. i am not sure anymore!! she likes attention but even alone she does crazy stuff like playing with icecream when she got a treat out with her g-ma like slurping and flipping it around, she jumps off the furniture, makes crazy noises and bugs all of her syblings, and family, out of all my children she is the one i would take last to the store, shopping or out, she acts like she is a 4yr old, literally my 4 yr old acts more mature than her ...please help thanks

[margypops]

I appreciate it is difficult ,I have to say I hear this a lot and the pattern is that the child is asking for more from you however you phrase it ,she is upset and there is a reason, her acting out is a cry for help, walk in her shoes exactly as she sees it and you may see....good luck

[aroze4mom2]

yes all of my 5 get seperate outtings, help with fun stuff and even get to earn and enjoy parent time alone, while eating going to the park , family members homes and such that is why im confused, she is getting more time but even when she is getting this time she is not acting her age she is continually acting like she is again 4... i understand the asking for attention portion but even with the praise and one on ones with both parents or one dad or mom, its very difficult....

[margypops]

It sounds as if your daughter is doing this to get more attention from you, is it possible the younger children get more than she does and she is trying to emulatea  younger behavior pattern to get some.  the fact she tells you noone will help  her says it all, she is feeling left out, perhaps some more Physical activities, get Dad involved and if the weather is good some outside sports, does she do any extra activities at school, give her one to one time, Focus on her positive side and praise her when you see her doing something right. Can she go shopping or help with the cooking, just the 2 of you so she still feels special. Good luck