another potty training question

We have been trying to potty train my youngest who is 28 months old. It isn't going very well.  She loves to wear pull ups and big girl panties they are her favorite.  She also loves to tell me I have to go potty....


problem is she will go in her pullup or panties and then tell me she has to go.  Or if she hasn't gone yet she will say I have to go potty and sit on the potty for 20 minutes and then say all done and get off, but not have gone.  

I have tried everything from prizes to having her watch potty videos to watching her big sister or myself go...Nothing works.  

My oldest basically trained herself at the age of 3.  She had diarrhea one day and didn't want to soil herself so she used the restroom and kept on doing it to this day.

So basically I am potty training for the first time.  I need help....

[RockRose]

Do get the sense she's really just not ready physically,  but she's kind of ready emotionally to be a big girl?  

It doesn't sound like she really knows when she's going - she says she has to go after she's already done it,  and she says she's gone in the toilet when she hasn't.

It sounds like she needs another couple months to mature more before she's ready.

[MomOfTwoGrls]

thats what I was thinking. I think emotionally she is ready because she see's older sib doing it.  But I think physically she isn't.  

Part of me just wonders if I am pushing the issue, even though she is the one while out in public that says I have to go pee.  

[mum2beagain]

I am having the oposite issue with my son, physically he is ready, he is dry overnight and at nap time and if I leave him without a diaper he will just hold it until he is literally dancing around because he is desperate to go( even up to two hours), if he starts to pee without a diaper on he stops himself midflow and if I put him on the potty or toilet he makes a real fuss and say's no pee, yet is quite happy to sit on the potty when he doesn't need to pee. He has only actually peed on the toilet three times in the last 3 weeks. He is developmentally delayed and although has a large vocabulary isn't all that good at answering questions yet, I am wondering if communication is the problem or whether with his developmental delays he is just not emotionally ready. I usually end up putiing him a diaper or pull up on him after a couple of attempts to get him to go on the potty as I am worried that holding it too long will give him a UTI. Has anyone any ideas how to get over this problem?