bed time

[JUSTAPOSTER]

My three year old son will not sleep in his own room I put him to bed he gets angry so I lay down with him tell he falls a sleep.  When he’s asleep I go to bed.  He ends up with my later so in the middle of the night I move him.  My boyfriend this he can’t be away from me when I’m home he’s next to me while I’m cooking to watching TV.  Even when I’m in the shower.  I get on time to my self and no privacy.  But I really don’t mind except bedtime I have three other kids and I want to be fair.  Thank you

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

You have to do a better job of setting limits with your son. If you are strong and consistent, he will adjust. There are times when he can be with you; there are other times when he should not be (e.g., when you are in the bathroom, when you are sleeping). Rfere to Richard Ferber's book Solving Your Child's Sleep Problem for guidance in how to make the adjustment at night. The goal is for your son to fall asleep in his own bed, by himself, and to remain in his own bed throughout the night. This goal can be reached, but you'll have to discipline yourself to be more firm with him.

[JUSTAPOSTER]

Well thank you your Probably right every body tells me the same thing thank you so much I’ll get the book

[rumpully]

Another suggestion would be to find out the reason why the child is refusing to go to bed on his own.  What is he afraid of?  Does he sleep in a room with other children?  What is their infuence on him? Forcing a child to sleep alone without finding out the why may lead to that child feeling he is not being heard adn theat his feelings are not important.  Communication is the best for all situation, find out the why, then you have a better idea for problem solving.
Good luck
Joann patterson