behavior

Is it inappropriate for a six year old girl to show signs of infatuation to older males, e.g. a 40 year old cottage neighbour, her cousins 20 year old boyfriend.  She would wave to the cottage neighbour and say "Hi, (name) it's me (her name) in  flurtatious way.  She stoked the 20 year old male on his back in an affectionate flirtations way.  These are the only two situations that I know of, and were repeated a few times.  She received some laughs from her behavior.  The 20 year old apparently expressed a sense of discomfort at her behavior.  Is this abnormal in any way or could it indicate something else.  She is a very bright and often precocious 6 year old.  Mother corrects precocious expression, like telling her mom "big but, ha ha"  Other than that I see her as bright and gifted, e.g. can play piano by ear, is in acting classes, takes piano lessons and seems to be adjusting well to grade one.

[bellmont]

I would like to ad more info to my Post.  It seems this child also makes gestures at grabbing her 14 year old cousins breasts and her 11 year old cousins penis which makes these children uncomfortable.  She has suggested that her cousins 20 year old boyfriend can get naked in the pool.  While I was with her and her mother, she pulled her mother's zipper down exposing her cleavage.  Mother zipped it back up telling her that this was not appropriate.  Basically to me she is quite precocious and occupied with body parts and nudity.  Other family members have expressed their concern.  How does one go about handling this problem.  While her mother was out of town on business, her father took her to grandma's for a sleep over.  While there he took a shower with his 6 year old daughter for convenience and days later told her mother that in the shower daddy's wee wee had white stuff coming from it.  Daddy was questioned on this and apparently was stunned by the comment of his 6 year old daughter and explained to his wife that it must have been all the soap suds that she was referring to.  Both parents decided it was time for dad to be more discrete.  So what do others think of this situation?

[RockRose]

Your first post sounds like a fairly normal child who has impulse control issues,  and needs to quit acting out on all her impulses.

Your second post is a grave concern.

You don't say what your relationship is to this girl,  but this part about the shower "for convenience"  (GIVE ME A BREAK),  is a huge screaming red flag.  Soap doesn't look like white stuff coming out of a father's penis.  

When you say "it's time for Dad to be more discrete" this seems like he does this with regularity.

It's time for someone to call CPS,  in my opinion.  Great for you to be interested and concerned.

[Momoftwo622]

Children live what they learn!!  My son is very bright as well and I stopped taking showers with him when he was @ 4 because he started looking at me too long.  I don't think I would ever be comfortable having my husband shower with my daughter (I do not have one) at any age.  The white stuff could be soap - kids see things differently than we do.  (I'm trying to be optimistic).  Where did the child sleep while at grandma's?  I would watch some more, question when appropriate, before calling CPS.  You don't want to make something of it until you know there is something going on.  The parents of this child might be very inappropriate around their child (fondling each other, making out, etc.)  You also said she is taking acting classes.  What is she watching on tv, what are her acting classes including, etc.  You can very subtly questioning this child.  Start by saying something like "you really love your daddy don't you"  "Do you hug daddy a lot?"  "Do you like taking naps with daddy" .  If you ask the right questions, you'll get the answers you want - maybe not be what you want to hear!  Good luck and stay close!