behavior

11 yr. old 3rd of 4 children has always been my emotional child. For the past year is showing anger towards other siblings & now at school. At first started out as name calling and has now become physical(ie:pulling out kitchen knife, burning older brother with boiling carmel)Has extreme out burst when others are making noise,eating too loud etc. In moments his moods will change from creative & excited to anger or sadness. He has told me that he is afraid that if I'm not with him I will die.His sleep patterns range from normal to sleeping 12 hours or just falling asleep. He is about 5'5 and 170lbs. he is involved in sports.Altough he has always been emotional and threw fits as a toddler and younger child it seems that in the last year or so his anger is getting worse and now affecting him outside of home.I have continually excused his behavior but no longer can due to the fact that he is causing harm to others with words,rage,and harm physically.MY other 3 children 16,14,7 yrs old are well adjusted at home and school. I do believe in discipline and have always made sure my kids knew they had consequences.Ido not think all of his problems are puberty related.Does this sound like depression or bipolar?

[mjx]

try to see a doctor regarding this matter, it is also great to have a talk with your child about this. you could also visit http://besthealthoptions.com/baby-child-care. you might get some useful information about child behavior. gud day!

[Christy H]

From the info you provided, It sounds like your son may be starting puberty, please know that boys go through the mood swings just as bad as girls do however, our society does not allow for boys to have the freedom to cry and express themselves.
My next thought is has your child suffered a loss or has there been a death or divorce or issues at school this may be another possible reason for your son to be acting out.
If you rule out those issues talk to your doctor and discuss options to handle the issues.
good luck and i feel for you
Christy :)

[CHeimes]

I believe in discipline - but I don't believe in physical discipline.  If you hit, he hits, if you curse he curses, if you scream he screams.  But he'll do it w/ other people not just you.

He should have consequences for his behavior if he is physical w/ someone else.
1.  No TV, telephone, snacks or playing.  He can read books in his room, or just sit on his bed and think about what he's done.  Since he is 11 this should be for one day.
2. Talk w/ him about how it hurts when he is physical w/ someone.  How would he like it if someone did that to him.  
3. No screaming or cursing at him... he sounds like he's going through some emotional problems right now.
4. Be there for him.  Hug him and let you know you love him no matter what.  He needs to know that you're there for him and that you'll never, never leave him.
5. Take him somewhere (just you and him)... ice-cream, movie, skating, or just a nice walk somewhere.

Let him know you love him... this could get alot worse if you don't fix it now.