building self esteem

Hi I`m working on discpline and building self confidence for my 3.8 yr old? Need tips on building self esteem and positive self image... Any ideas?

[stayathomemommyof2]

well i always tell my son how "sexy" he is. Tell your child what a great job he/she is doing for something as simple as putting a dish in the sink.Make your child take pride in themself "lets fix your hair to go out" Oh u look so good" or lets brush our teeth" "Look at those beautiful teeth" or "dont u look good in your new outfit" encourage your child and make a huge deal out of everything  good your child does like drawing u a picture or picking u a flower "usually my child picks me a weed" my son will go in somewhere and say "hey look at my sexy hair" to everyone. I tell him this when i fix his hair. He may be concided lol but has confidence. Does ur child have issues w confidence?

[stayathomemommyof2]

o and most of all make sure your child knows how much u love him/her tell him continuesly and teach your child to love his/her self

[Sandman2]

  If your child has been always treated positively - when he's bad, you say this is what you did, this is your punishment, we love you, but this is what will always happen.    Not "You are an idot.", etc.  His self confidence should be ok.
  My opinion is that he is 3.8.  Give him a break.  Love him.  Play with him.  When he gets into sports - definitely support him and practice with him, but keep it fun.  Some kids are quiet, some are outgoing, some are inbetween.  If they feel good about home, if they have parents that pay attention (and that means disciplining when necessary) to them.  They are going to be ok.

[Soomanyproblems123]

im 12 years old and i dont have ANY self confidence i like to wear baggy cloths because i have a slow matabilsm so im medium weight and a normal appereance it got so bad that at school i wouldnt get lunch because i was afraid that people whould judge me, by the way im a girl but what can i do?

[Sandman2]

     Hey, I have spent a lot of time with middle school students.  The one thing that i know for sure is that they always judge themselves more harshly then the other kids.  My advice is to be true to your self.  By your age I am guessing that you are just starting middle school?  That alone is a big downer.  You have gone from the top of the heap in elementary school to the bottom of the pile - its scary.  The cool thing (and the scary thing) about middle school is that there are a lot more kids there.  You will find someone or many ones like you.  Just give it some time.  Treat others as you would want them to treat you.  See if there are any noontime clubs or after school activities to join (good way to meet people).    
  By the way, you said you don't have any self confidence.  Hate to tell you, but you wouldn't be posting here if you didn't have some degree of self confidence.  It takes self confidence to reach out for help.  Just realize that things don't happen overnight.  Best wishes!!!