child and freind masterbation

[vergil]

hi i have a five year old and she masterbates regurllay
most of the time i accidentally catch her in her room with her pants and undies down ...well you get it
i have gone over it with her that it is a private thing but latley she has freinds over a boy and a girl
and i catch them naked and toucing their own and each others genitals i also notice the boy has an errection
should i tell the parents of her freinds and to tell them to stop touching each other
and also i have seen her freinds lie on top of each other and start to rock i dont know if the are having sex
or just playing a game cause they are under the covers and i didnt know what to do so i left them alone
did i do the right thing and what should i do about it and my wife is also concerened about it so please help

[vergil]

well i did not wnat to hurt their freindship nad i did not think it was nessary but affter the talk to the other parents we did take her to a psychologist and she says their is little concern saying as long as they know their privates are ''there'' own and it stays that way
and i did inturrupt thats hoe i found they were only playing well on your point no kids should be allowed to be freinds they are kids they explore themselfs it is normal but i understand where you are coming from but no effnets as long as it stays clothes on i dont see the point neither did the psychologist  and  finally i asked where she learned it she said found to be ticklish down their by here self and my daughter is no liar so i know shes telling the truth we are a open family and if their was a problem me and my wife would know but thanks for the 2 cents

[gia666]

uhmm something here doesn't sound right how do you as a parent allow friends to come over after catching them touching each others genitals and then you catch them on top of each other and not once have you mentioned taking the child to see a psychologist and the other parents know they do this and all they can say is let them play and then you walk in and see them on top of each other and don't even inquire or interrupt them to see what actually is going on but oh yea thx god it turns out they weren't doing anything ys i would be very concerned i understand children like to explore but this seems to be getting out of hand your daughter is masturbating at the age of 5 what does she know about masturbation unless she has seen someone doing it and it mimicking someone and now it's being done with friends hello something is definitely wrong in this household and you think by saying ok kids you can  play just as long that you keep your clothes on? are you serious? does anyone here see this as a problem starting with the adults? are is it just me

[vergil]

thanks for the help i ahd a disssussion with the other parents and they knew about their own kids but not the GROUP activities and we all explained that it is a private alone activity but we did not scold them over it and i asked the kids they said they were wreastling undre the covers i did enterveine another time and they were clothed so it was a load off my mind to know they were not doing other thimgs but i am still concerned about it but the parents decided to let the kids play together but we said all clothes stay on or no more vists but i hope we wernt to harsh

[becky1976]

I would definately tell the parents of the other children. If it were my child, I would want to know & would be upset if I found out that you knew & did not tell me.

[91004]

I wouldnt just leave them under the covers I would enterveine and have them do another activity.

[vergil]

sorry i am not that good with a computer and i hit the wrong date i am 29 sorry my newphem is tying to teach me hoe to use this stupid computer

[RockRose]

vergil,  how can you be 20 years old,  and have an 8 year old and a 5 year old child?