child psych?

[vaselmit]

Hi. I just want to be cleared with something,
we have an adopted child. she's 9 years old now. She's been with us for about a year. She's usually charming and very quiet. speaks in a very soft and quiet voice.
In her first 2 days, we noticed that, she talks to herself A LOT. as if she is talking to someone. I know it is normal for a child to talk to her self and pretend as if she is playing. but the weird thing is, she is talking to her self and hurting herself...like slapping her face, and slapping his arms. Holding her face tight...and whenever we would see her, she will immediately get back in a sitting position and act as if we didn't see anything. what's more, she has learning difficulty, and cannot obey house rules. Whenever she does bad things and you caught her she usually, sit and act as if she didnt do anything, acting like an innocent one and once confronted she'll just say. "nothing" or just be quiet. I can really feel their is something different in her. She even said a bad word on my grandmom whenever she wants something that wasn't given to her. she usually destroy's other people stuff and gives a bad look at you, as if she's gonna kill you. She is a brat, she has a bad attitude but when you first see her, she acts like normal. I mean, like a charming kid..but, when you get to know her, she's different from that charming kid you thought she'd be.

I think she's just a brat, but...things are terrible. she gives me the creeps! All the people in our house shows her love and care, but we really cant understand why is she like that.

[margypops]

What are the 'house' rules ?

[margypops]

Your last sentence says it all...they are extreme words to say about any child.,how can you give her love and care when you speak and think like this..I suggest you get some professional help for her and you,to be able to move forward. May I ask what her back ground was like before she came to you,it is possible that if she has had a hard time in her previous life it could be some reason for her behavior now , children do talk to them selves especially if they have been alone. What are these bad things you talk about.your title for this post speaks volumes about how you feel about her,it is concerning. does her adoptive Dad feel the same way ?