feces smearing

My boyfriend lost his spouse almost three years ago when she died of a heart attack after putting her kids to bed.  His 10 yr old son has been to my house several times along with his 8 yr old daughter.  His son on three separate occasions has smeared feces on my furniture and bathroom floor.  I discussed this incident with my boyfriend and he had addressed it with his son.  He apparently does this every so often.  I have had several different talks with my boyfriend about this because this behavior is alarming to me.  I have both a background in early childhood and in the medical field.  I believe this is a "cry for help" and that he may be being sexually abused.  I would like some insight to this and how I should handle this.  I am at a loss for words.  I have talked with my boyfriend telling him that he should talk to his pediatrician and he thinks he has just got a nasty habit.  My boyfriend is 15 yrs older and he is a little set in his ways but, I think he is way off.  I am concerned he does not want to address this issue seeing as his son is 10 and not 2 and playing in poop.  I don't want to ruin my relationship with my boyfriend but, it is concerning me that he won't investigate this more.  Am I being paranoid or wrong to think this of his son?  My boyfriend also has mentioned his son he may have a disorder called Hirsprung's disease.  He has had intestinal issues since a little boy.  He has seen specialist for this.  By why would he play in his feces?  Please, please, please give some insight to this.  Thank you for your time.


This discussion is related to 7 Year Old Boy Playing With Feces In  School Bathroom.

[margypops]

I agree with you that it could be addressed by your boyfriend better , this could be a habit the boy has got into and as we all know habits are hard to break and it probably wasnt helped or maybe even caused by loosing his Mom that way so I think we have to be compassionate and perhaps focus on giving him plenty of positive attention, does his Dad play games and sports with him , Fun, If he has an appt to see a specialist that may be also a good idea.