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foot fetish for a 5 year old boy

Is it possible for a 5 year old boy to have a foot fetish? He has been masturbating to pictures of feet since he was 2 years old. If yes, is this a potential foot fetis and if it is possible, what can be done for the boy to prevent this in the future withou hurting him emotionally now?
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Greetings,

The answer to your question is YES!!
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I regret to inform you that some of what I will say might alarm you. Although healthy fetishes are inconvenient, fetishes that morph into paraphilias are worse.
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Who am I? you might ask What makes me qualified to speak about this topic?
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First I've had a fetish for more than 30 years. It began when I was almost three years of age.
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In the 80s, I first began reading what doctors had to say about the topic.
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In essence, a foot fetish is a male sexual response to female scent.

If you do not believe me, the do the following:
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Google fetish>stinky feet. Google "panty fetish" google shoe and or sock fetish.
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Google "fetish forums and read.
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Men are supposed to be attracted to female scents. Fetish behavior has been observed in Chimpanzees. Simply put, a boy, usually 3-6 has contact with female scent. He is subsequently aroused and will masturbate to the object. He is really too young to understand the concept of a "social taboo." His rudimentary understanding of right and wrong may cause him to masturbate in private. I did.
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Bad news:
If he continues to have fetish contact, it may become a permanent part of who he is.
More bad news:
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Woman,teenage baby sitters, aunts cousins and female neighbors, think it is cute when a small child exhibits fetish behavior. This is easy for them since female sexuality is more relationship and touch oriented than male sexuality. Male sexuality is predominantly sight and scent driven. Therefore, women (they are innocents) think nothing of wriggling bright shiny polished toes in front of a mesmerized small boy. Woman & girls think nothing of flexing their toes before a mesmerized small boy, not knowing the effect of the sinuously undulating muscles of the foot and the way the skin will change color (white to pink) as she flexes and arches her feet. Woman and girls think nothing how the sweat of their feet (which is different than a man's sweat)
may be tempting the heterosexual part of that young boy's mind.
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Best case scenario: nothing happens.
Common scenario: An inconvenient life long foot fetish develops.
Worst case scenario: The life long foot fetish also becomes a paraphilia.
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Doubt me if you will, but the difference between you and I is that I've studied this for over 20 years.
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Doubt me if you will, but the difference between you and I is that I can quote more M.d & Ph.d possessing people than you.
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Doubt me if you will, but the difference between you and I is that can show you forum and adult entertainment website that bare out my words than you can believe possible.
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Yep, I respect you. However, I do not like to volunteer information. People do not want to hear that which goes against their feelings or that which they were not expecting to hear. This causes people to whine and attack regardless of how polite one may provide the controversial information. Your response, if there is to be one, will prove to be most interesting...or stereotypical.

Take your child to a competent therapist. never make your child feel guilty about his desires.If the therapist is reluctant to believe or act upon the fact that fetishes can begin in childhood due to the innocent actions of women, then you need to find a real therapist.
Fetish guilt can lead to a desire to be dominated in adolescence and adult hood.
In severe cases, this is called comorbidity. Check out DSM IV.
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Again, I've researched this my whole life.
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warm Regards and best wishes.
Postscript: I've not the time to proofread this, sorry.
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I also left out the fact that men are very visual, sexually speaking. Female toenails  are often painted a bright eye catching color. Boys like shiny toys. If a boy is young, 2-7  years old, being around a woman who cares for him can generate feelings of warmth & security. Under theses conditions, when a girl or a woman plays with the boy, especially if she uses her feet, sexual feelings can occur and become permanent part of the boy's love map as it were.
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Yes, it seems to be a foot fetish because he is masturbating to the pictures, so it is directly sexual. Fetishes do start that early. What is the reason? There are many. It could be biological relating to chemicals or senses (like above regarding scent.) It could also be environmental where people take their ultimate fear and fetishize it to cope wit it (happens with abuse cases resulting in extreme S&M, as well as balloon or object fetishes.)

But the fact is, he has a foot fetish. What is the next step? Well you do not want it to become his obsession because that will be emotionally damaging. So what you can try to do is inhibit it. Do NOT punish him or make him feel wrong or disgusted abt what he is doing. But perhaps always keep him busy, keep him in public so his change to masturbate is limited. And seeing an expert of course might help to identify exactly the source of the fetish. So will all this make the fetish entirely go away? Possibly not. But it will make a difference in your child having a feet turn-on as opposed to having a lifelong obsession where he cannot ejaculate without the fetish. It will make the difference between a desire for feet, and a NEED for feet. It is good that you observed this now while you have a chance to actively act.

So keep him busy, try to keep him infront of you and decrease his chances to masturbate, and see an expert to identify the source of his problem. And good luck!
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there is nothing wrong with this. im a 16 year old male and i love sucking my 9 year old male cousins feet... everytime we see each other and when we alone he makes me suck it for him. he has this cool idea of spiting on his feet and then making me suck it. its really good
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For references sake, I am a 16 y/o heterosexual male w/ a foot fetish.
I lead a completely normal and relatively successful life.

@ "mattiesslave":
Dude. Sick. Fetish combined with incest, homosexuality, and underage sex. Wow, I mean, how messed up can you be? Now, fetishes and homosexuality are fine by themselves, there's nothing wrong with that, but incest and underage sex are just plain wrong, esp mixed together. Seek help man. And I'm not saying it to make you feel bad. Seriously, seek help. Or if that was a joke, then... get a life, then seek help, your probably scared "gesh" out of their mind that the five year old will turn out like that.

@"gesh"
Don't worry. Fetishes, while being in the minority, are for the most part are harmless. As long as he learns sexual responsibility as all guys must, he'll be fine. There's a process, one all guy fetishists go through:

He'll naturally learn to keep it a secret at a young age, before he even realizes what it is. Upon reaching preteens, he'll have started investigation as to what is is, and his curiosity (and want to not be the alone, he'll think he's a freak of nature up until he learns what a fetish is and that its fairly common, about 1/10 people have fetishes, if not more) will eventually lead to his discovery of what a fetish is and entails, and blah blah blah... by the time he hits sophomore year in high school, he ought to have full understanding, and will be fine. There are many, many girls that would enjoy and some that would even prefer that level of intimacy and attention from a guy. Rest assured, if there are no other problems, he'll get along just fine.

@ "a_182cm_elf":
Wow, man. You disappoint me. Before reading your post I would have been happy that a fellow fetishist had replied, to give a voice of reason from one who actually knows what they are talking about but... it seems this is not so.
I believe you do have a fetish, and that you have talked to countless doctors, psychologists, and other supposed "experts" on the subject, and researched it for many years of your life. However, it seems that you allowed professionals who are ignorant of the subject convince you of things that simply are not so. And here, as a 16 y/o fetishist leading a normal and successful life (for my age), I will dispel these theories and misconceptions of fetishes that professionals THINK they know. All of the following statements are wrong:

THE SOURCE OF A FETISH IS ALWAYS DISCERNIBLE. false. the potential sources or causes of fetishes are so numerous and varying that it is impossible, literally impossible to know for sure what the exact cause was. What "experts" have is their best guests which are probable at  best.

A FETISH IS A PROBLEM THAT SHOULD BE "CURED" LIKE SOME DISEASE. Wrong. The only difference between a guy with a foot fetish and on w/o one is that the guy without will only be turned on by her breast and butt, and the one with the fetish will be turned by by her breast, butt, and her feet. It's all sexual arousal, it has nothing to do with the way they think or function as a person. The vast majority of people with fetishes lead normal lives. And funny thing is, most of them (us) find loving partners that DON"T HAVE A FETISH but merely accept it as a part of who their partner is and as something that makes them unique. So chill.

A FETISH IS A PROBLEM THAT CAN BE "CURED" LIKE SOME DISEASE. C'mon people. This is psychology we're talking about. Every person's psyche is unique and different, like a fingerprint but extremely more complicated. In the same way, everyone's fetish is different. No two are the same, psyche or fetish. So there is no general rules or laws that work for a majority, or even a large number. This basically means that while psychologists know a lot about the human brain and how it works, they can never know enough to adequately change or alter someone's psyche without completely damaging other things in the process. Imagine a doctor performing open-heart surgery with a chain saw. Yeah, not a pretty thing. The same concept applies to psychology, especially fetishism, which, to be blunt, the experts really know nothing about, aside from educated guesses. So don't go "seeking help". Nothing good can come of it.

"a_182cm_elf", honestly, you sound bitter to me. I have a fetish but have no problems with it. I share this openly with friends, and have not experienced the "social taboo" that so many think fetishes are branded with. I am completely normal, a successful high-schooler, and a good person besides. I think that you just never learned to cope with your fetish and branded yourself a freak of nature, regarding yourself and all others like you as diseased. I live, and I am proof that this is not so, as are millions and millions of others. If you see yourself as a freak or diseased, others will sense that attitude and go along with it. You have to stop it. You like feet. Get over it. From what you've said thus far, you have wasted far too much of your life letting others define you.
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For references sake, I am a 16 y/o heterosexual male w/ a foot fetish.
I lead a completely normal and relatively successful life.

@ "mattiesslave":
Dude. Sick. Fetish combined with incest, homosexuality, and underage sex. Wow, I mean, how messed up can you be? Now, fetishes and homosexuality are fine by themselves, there's nothing wrong with that, but incest and underage sex are just plain wrong, esp mixed together. Seek help man. And I'm not saying it to make you feel bad. Seriously, seek help. Or if that was a joke, then... get a life, then seek help, your probably scared "gesh" out of their mind that the five year old will turn out like that.

@"gesh"
Don't worry. Fetishes, while being in the minority, are for the most part are harmless. As long as he learns sexual responsibility as all guys must, he'll be fine. There's a process, one all guy fetishists go through:

He'll naturally learn to keep it a secret at a young age, before he even realizes what it is. Upon reaching preteens, he'll have started investigation as to what is is, and his curiosity (and want to not be the alone, he'll think he's a freak of nature up until he learns what a fetish is and that its fairly common, about 1/10 people have fetishes, if not more) will eventually lead to his discovery of what a fetish is and entails, and blah blah blah... by the time he hits sophomore year in high school, he ought to have full understanding, and will be fine. There are many, many girls that would enjoy and some that would even prefer that level of intimacy and attention from a guy. Rest assured, if there are no other problems, he'll get along just fine.

@ "a_182cm_elf":
Wow, man. You disappoint me. Before reading your post I would have been happy that a fellow fetishist had replied, to give a voice of reason from one who actually knows what they are talking about but... it seems this is not so.
I believe you do have a fetish, and that you have talked to countless doctors, psychologists, and other supposed "experts" on the subject, and researched it for many years of your life. However, it seems that you allowed professionals who are ignorant of the subject convince you of things that simply are not so. And here, as a 16 y/o fetishist leading a normal and successful life (for my age), I will dispel these theories and misconceptions of fetishes that professionals THINK they know. All of the following statements are wrong:

THE SOURCE OF A FETISH IS ALWAYS DISCERNIBLE. false. the potential sources or causes of fetishes are so numerous and varying that it is impossible, literally impossible to know for sure what the exact cause was. What "experts" have is their best guests which are probable at  best.

A FETISH IS A PROBLEM THAT SHOULD BE "CURED" LIKE SOME DISEASE. Wrong. The only difference between a guy with a foot fetish and on w/o one is that the guy without will only be turned on by her breast and butt, and the one with the fetish will be turned by by her breast, butt, and her feet. It's all sexual arousal, it has nothing to do with the way they think or function as a person. The vast majority of people with fetishes lead normal lives. And funny thing is, most of them (us) find loving partners that DON"T HAVE A FETISH but merely accept it as a part of who their partner is and as something that makes them unique. So chill.

A FETISH IS A PROBLEM THAT CAN BE "CURED" LIKE SOME DISEASE. C'mon people. This is psychology we're talking about. Every person's psyche is unique and different, like a fingerprint but extremely more complicated. In the same way, everyone's fetish is different. No two are the same, psyche or fetish. So there is no general rules or laws that work for a majority, or even a large number. This basically means that while psychologists know a lot about the human brain and how it works, they can never know enough to adequately change or alter someone's psyche without completely damaging other things in the process. Imagine a doctor performing open-heart surgery with a chain saw. Yeah, not a pretty thing. The same concept applies to psychology, especially fetishism, which, to be blunt, the experts really know nothing about, aside from educated guesses. So don't go "seeking help". Nothing good can come of it.

"a_182cm_elf", honestly, you sound bitter to me. I have a fetish but have no problems with it. I share this openly with friends, and have not experienced the "social taboo" that so many think fetishes are branded with. I am completely normal, a successful high-schooler, and a good person besides. I think that you just never learned to cope with your fetish and branded yourself a freak of nature, regarding yourself and all others like you as diseased. I live, and I am proof that this is not so, as are millions and millions of others. If you see yourself as a freak or diseased, others will sense that attitude and go along with it. You have to stop it. You like feet. Get over it. From what you've said thus far, you have wasted far too much of your life letting others define you.
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Sorry guys, I didn't mean to post that twice. My mistake T_T
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For me this is a very touchy subject. I have has a foot fetish as long as I can remember, probably since i was around 7 or 8, (Im 20 now). And this fetish is not just limited to womens feet, but mens, kids and a lot of other things. I would never act on this fetish unless I asked my female partner to do it. But for years Ive struggled with this, My advice is talk to your child when he's old enough to understand, if he's 5 now, I'd say wait till he's around 9-10 and then explain to him how he should and shouldnt use it.
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Well, I guess some of us are born more curious than others.. I was really crazy as a toddler, i used to lick and bite my mothers, aunts, sisters feet, it was some anxious feeling i couldnt stop, i saw characters on every foot, like faces and bodies, it was amazing how much time i would play with them. And women loved that, I guess its empathy what we have, we feel they need a foot rub, and we just like giving pleausre, like we are born a little more lovers.

Here is the point:
They never punished me or something, they did let me just be, EVENTUALLY I just grew out of it without becoming an obsession for not having it..

I can say that because being a curious child I had the urgue to touch and see every part that people USE to cover, like feet, breasts, butts, genitals.

I could eventually grow out of all of this because I realized they were not that "locked".

Dont think i could scape out of all this. Penis's men was something that started growing up in my head at 5 yr old. This was the only thing that they did never let me touch, though i tried with every men. I could eventually stop it understanding it was BAD, it was "homosexualism" and "gay" stuff, so they put me on a different path. Now I am a 21 yr old Homosexual.  

You will need to put your children in pretty much activities, thats the base of all that problems, kids learn they dont have anything to do and start doing weird things.
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Lighterside, I really loved your take on this situation.

My son has a foot fetish.  I remember clearly the day that it came to life.  He was two years old and there was an older lady on the other side of the pool with shiny pretty sandals and painted toes.  He babbled his two year old babble and pointed at her sandals, sat down and looked at her feet mesmerized, then came back over and wanted to swim some more.

From then on, he loved women's feet.  He tried to take everyone's shoes off (women exclusively) and wanted to put the feet on his belly.  He did get what we would affectionately call "baby wood" from it.  

Being a young mom, I probably didn't handle it properly.  I didn't yell at him, but it made me uncomfortable and made others uncomfortable here and there.  So I would redirect him and tell him "don't do that, honey"..  

From then on he seemed like perhaps I had been too rough as he would avoid feet, or the topic of them entirely.

Now he's almost 14, and his interest seems to have come back out of the closet.  He's ever willing to provide a foot massage (while it's never requested, he's keen to offer).  I understand that he must get some sort of sexual enjoyment from it, but he no longer appears to get an erection.  

I'm not a "sexually shaming" type of mom.  I grew up weird, and inhibited and ashamed, and I don't want that for my kids.  We speak openly and honestly about sex, sexuality, etc.  This is a topic we'll touch on soon.
I intend to discuss his appreciation for feet much as I did masturbation.  It's natural (what else could you call an affection developed at two in a child who had not been sexually abused or sexualized?), and until it's shared with a consenting partner later on in life, it's a private thing.  I'll also share with him that not every partner he'll have in life will be accepting of his preference, and might even respond negatively.  But all in all, I don't see it to be a big deal!  Welcome to individuality!

In short, I don't think it's appropriate to avail myself to his appreciation, being that it is sexually stimulating and I'm his mother.  I do think it's proper to let him know what would be deemed inappropriate to others and have negative consequences..  And I believe that introducing shame and taboo to the situation would exacerbate the appreciation in ways that ultimately will be to his detriment.  But I think it's not so much a big deal, and should be handled like any display of sexuality in a developing child.  Address it, indicate what's ok and what's not ok, and insist on a private exploration in an appropriate setting.

That's my two cents!
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