help!!!

[hali30]

I am 30 years old with 2 daughters. I am having great difficulty with my 7 year old daughter she is always moody, angry, naughty and aggressive towards her younger sister who is 5. She was an amazing baby/child and her personality completely changed when she turned 5. One minute she is happy and the next she is sulking/moaning and complaining about the smallest thing. I have tried giving her more attention than my younger child but it’s just getting worse. I have ignored but she would upset my younger daughter for attention. This is really bringing me down as she is a very well behaved child at school, with other children, pets and animals but just around me and my family she just totally switches to her moody mode. I really need some help and advise please.

[margypops]

I can tell you it seems to be a phase and you are right to assume it is to do with attention and the other child, she is feeling left out, you may think you give her as much attention but she really needs some one to one attention,perhaps the older one is asked to share her precious toys with the younger child this does happen a lot, and can cause resentment , sharing is good but not all the time ,its okay for her to say no if she wants her own toy .Let Dad have the younger child whilst you play some games and have fun with the older one. She may have got into a habit of moaning/complaining so the best way is to ignore that.. she does it for attention and I bet you give her it, dont reward negative behavior, focus on her positive behavior and praise her when you see her doing something right. Let her bake with you, help you do stuff around the house, but dont feed into the sulking, say nothing let it go. .