help!!

[loubear1986]

Hi i have 2 boys one 7 and one 4, for a few months now my 7 yr olds behaviour has changed dramatically and every time i speak to the teachers they fob me off and say and i quote "all kids do this" well here is a list of the verbal abuse we get from him over the slightest thing


I hate you
Your an idiot
Ill kill you ( mainly if we dont do something he wants us to)
Were stupid
He doesnt want a mum/dad

He has all the respect for his teachers but us well he had none, i punished him once by smacking his bum because he's full on kicked me in the stomach while he was lying on his bed i did tell a wan at school who was meant to be helping us all she said was im teaching him to be violent! He never used to say these things or be this angry until he started school, i am at a total loss ive cried infront of him which made him cry and we had a talk about his behavior when i asked him about it he just said his heart cracked because he was upset

[bulutl]

My son became 'naughty' and actually it was because he was frustrated and angry as he was having issues. Worth asking yourself is there anythng that could be making him anxıous-big changes in lifestyle new home relatives school-not all kids adjust easily-if a child has changed something has happened-hard for them to communicate it very well. one on one time trying to  chat often before they go to sleep children seem to open up- good luck xxxxx

[Sandman2]

   Well, in a way, the teacher is correct.  Kids need to learn how to deal with anger.   He has learned from other kids.  You need to show him better ways to deal with anger.   I would  look into buying "Cool down and work through anger" or "When I feel angry". This is part of a series of books aimed at 4 to 7 year old's and meant to be read to them at night (several times) and then practiced.  Kids do need to be taught how to deal with anger.  You do not try and use these techniques while he is yelling.  But once he stops or later on in the day - you can refer back to them or pull the books back out.
You can find them here -  http://www.amazon.com/Cool-Through-Anger-Learning-Along/dp/1575423464/ref=pd_sim_b_5
    Also, Words are not for hurting is another good book.  http://www.amazon.com/Words-Hurting-Ages-Best-Behavior/dp/1575421569/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1440993348&sr=1-1&keywords=words+are+not+for+hurting
     Finally, just for you, you might want to take a look at  - "SOS Help for Parents," by Lynn Clark.  Its a very good effective way to change a child's behavior.  Hope this helps.