how to be a leader??

[dudku]

My 6 Year old son is a normal healthy boy.He is quite friendly and very loyal in his friendships.Problem is that he quite often feels that children doesn't like him and don't want to be friends with him although i don't seem to analyse any reason for it.He likes to be friends with more outgoing and sporty boys but when he befriends them he tends to become a follower doing just as they instruct and it does occur to me that he is lacking leadership qualities.sometimes,he may be more capable but he takes a backseat with his domintaing friends just so that they still remain friends with him.A boy whom he considers his best friend and really likes is very dominating and makes him follow him.when they 2 are alone he'll be playing with him but as soon as a third boy comes along he ignores my son and starts playing with him.i realize my son feels deeply hurt by his attitude.if my son tries to make new friend that best friend of him doesn't let him do that.it seems my son is besotted by him that he is not ready to listen anthing against him and it truly breaks our heart to see that boy hurting my son every time.he doesn't say anything to us but sometimes i find him sitting alone depressed.what should we do?? please help

[margypops]

It is a fact that children and people follow the strongest, I doubt if you can change that unless he has it in him, you can however make sure he has a good self esteem, thinks well of himself so give him lots of praise and admiration, build him up in his own eyes, and even if he is a follower he will be a positive one, focus on his positive side .lots of praise and sports and FUN.When you find him sat depressed distract him, get some great board game going, do something exciting, challenging, lighten up his life and do not over react he will find his own way in the end.Good Luck

[Sandman2]

Margypops has great suggestions.  The only thing I would add is to always stress we are a "Team".  Getting him into team sports will help this idea.  We don't all have to be leaders.  But a great leader will have a strong team behind them.