how to handle 5 year olds touching each other

[no_way_jose]

We just had a little experience with a child (5 y.o.) and my child (5 y.o.) , they are both girls.  (lets call my child baby A) (and call the other child baby B.)   baby A was at Baby B's house when baby B had the idea to pull each others panties down and to touch each others privates. baby A reluctulantly played along. Then baby b wanted to kiss. so they did that too. Baby B  was rescently raped (outside of her home) and is in therapy for it. so i know its normal for a child who has been molested to start having these kinds of  behaviors. but i never would have thought it would happen with my baby. Baby B is a very sweet and good little girl.  i was watching them so close because since baby b was raped, i have had a terrible fear that this was going to happen... i guess o just wasn't watching them close enough. also... any words of wisdom on how to handle my husband. he is heartbroken. any help will be appreciated... Also i know it is normal for kids to "PLAY DR" but is it normal to take it this far? do i take her to a counselor or am i just freaking out over normal child development stuff?

[momtomac]

I'm very new to this site and did not know how to respond to your question below, so this was the only way I knew to send answers to you. My daughter has been completely fine she hasn't mentioned it really since it happened, or since the week of it happening. She has not seen her cousin since then - but still brings him up every so ofter. Of course every time she brings him up (especially when in public) I worry that she is going to say "...but we're not allowed to play together anymore because we kissed each others privates". My husband had a HORRIBLE time with it too. The biggest suggestion I have is not to go on and on with her about it. Discuss it, don't scold and reinforce who touches you "there".

That was my biggest part too - was wanting her to forget about it and wondering if she would or will. Because obviously there is no way to know without asking and of course we don't want to do that.  If it was pretty innocent I'm sure she will forget about it. I called our pediatrician and spoke to him about it - maybe you could do the same. Good luck.

no_way_jose "i just had the exact same experience. (Just a few hours ago, as a matter of fact.) And i am so freaked out I cannot even think straight. Please let me know if everything worked out ok for your baby girl. B/C as of right now, she is acting like she does not care at all. I however, am a diffrent story. i am literally sick to my stomach at the thought of my baby "losing that innoscent precious part of her childhood." what can i do to help her forget and to make sure it never happens again. i sware i did not take my eyes off of her for 2 minutes. i am not a bad mom i guess i just screwed up. the other child was another girl, not a boy. the little girl was rescently raped (outside of her home) and is in therapy for it. so i know its normal for a child who has been molested to start having those behaviors. but i never would have thought it would happen with my baby. the other little girl is also 5 and is a very sweet and good little girl. like i said i was watching them so close... i guess it just wasn't close enough. also... any words of wisdom on how to handle my husband. he is heartbroken. any help will be appreciated..."