how to help 5 yr old son deal with his anger

my five year old son has been getting very angry recently when he doesn't get his own way.  he told me last night that his brain is making him angry and he can't stop it.  Other comments he has recently made are "i hate this family, I wish I hadn't been born, I hate my mummy, I hate my daddy, i wish mummy and daddy would die, I'm going to kill myself".  He asked me could he whisper something to me the other day and he said "I want to die"  he has started huffing a lot recently too and then the anger erupts and he becomes physically aggressive and shouts a lot.  I have asked him after these events how best we could try and deal with these outbursts and if there is anything we could do for him that we are not doing now but his reply is that it is his brain that is making him angry and he can't stop it.  Please could you give me some advice for a way forward with this.  I'm not sure what to do for the best.  Thank you.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

Whatever young children say in anger can be pretty much ignored - it is not rational, sensible talk. From a parenting perspective, straightforward limit setting and discipline is required. Action, not words, are what count. Follow the behavior management guidelines in Lynn Clark's book SOS Help for Parents. Follow them carefully; don't take short cuts.