i caught my daughter and her friend fingering they're both 10

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I came home early today i heard some odd grunting sounds coming from my bathroom when i went to see what was up i saw my daughter and her friend fingering in the shower. they didn't see me but i know this isn't a sign they're gay i want to know how to handle this

p.s.-i know that it natural for girls this young to masturbate

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please respond!!!!-ehhhhh

[Megaroni]

I need some time to think about this.  I will respond sometime tomorrow as I am off to work.  I do know exploring with one another somewhat is normal, but this one will take some time for me to think through.  

[seeker1981]

well, to be honest it sounds like your being denial about the fact that she may like the opposite sex... This however is not part of your question so take the advise or leave it. Now back to your question about masturbation of a minor. It is normal for the occasional experimental period however it is something to worry about when it involves another person. it can be a very bad thing if the other child has been molested or is sexually active and trying to introduce your daughter to that mentality. Penetration is further then normal masturbation and should send a red flag that you need to start educating your ten year old about sex. You are the parent and its your responsibility to bring this sleeping dog out and wake it up. Its best to be upfront and comforting to your child. explain that its part of life to have these feelings however theres a time and a place for this to happen. educate them on the severity that sex or sexual acts brings and causes. its best to make sure your child will feel comfortable about talking to you in the future if need be. Communication is number one. Discipline is number two. make sure you dont pass that parent role and enter into friendship role. you still have to let your child know that you do not accept the fact that your child is doing what she did and may do again. Explain the negatives about sex like std's and the beauty of it like waiting for that special someone to share such a special moment in life. the whole point is to educate your child and not traumatize them. I hope that this might of helped you out, good luck and keep strong.