is it normal that my five year old is extremely rude and will not listen

[mariam741]

Help please, I have a five year old little girl who is very mature for her age and seems to understand most things. However, ever since i can recall she has always been very challenging and things do not seem to be getting better. lately she will not listen to anything I or anyone tells her, and she is extremely rude to family members and friends, and when told off or punished she throws tantrums. Her father and I have tried everything from postive reinforcement to punishment, but to no avail. We her absolutely at our wits end, as no consequences seem to matter to her and her behaviour is causing a major strain on the whole family.

I have recently given birth, and I find that it is very difficult to tend to the baby as most of the time is sent desplining her. We are loving parents who always consider her needs, we have tried talking to her and listening to what she has to say about her behaviour, but nothing is work. Now she is due to start school and we are concerned that she might face severe difficults with other children and teachers if this continiues. Please help understand we are missing or where we are going wrong.