low self image producing promiscuous teen

I'm afraid my 12-year old daughter is becoming promiscuous to get attention because of her low self image. I'm particularly concerned because I did exactly the same thing when I was a teenager. I saw her chatting on the computer the other day, and she said she liked to dress "slutty." So far, that's the only problem. She doesn't go out with boys or even have a boyfriend yet. Unfortunately, she inherited my weight problem and is somewhat overweight. What can I do to not let history repeat itself?

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

First, be careful about interpreting what you see in your daughter as a manifestation of the same phenomenon that occurred with you. Try to focus on the behavior that worries you, and don't become too focused on its meaning. If your daughter confides in you, and you have a close relationship, discuss your concerns with her. If there's a relative in whom she confides, perhaps the relative (or adult friend) could speak with her. Also, consider seeking consultation with a mental health professional, who could speak with you and then, together, you could decide if your daughter should be seen by the clinician.