mimicking behaviors

[tish1874]

I became a Foster parent this year and I also have a six year old daughter. Recently a few weeks ago, I took in a 10 year old girl. Needless to say this may be my toughest case. MY six year old has done a complete °360 since she's been here,  she's started lying and not just small lies. The 10 year old also wets the bed and last night my daughter wet the bed for the first time in years. She's picking up on so many bad behaviors and I dont know what to do. I have been told to give the 10 year old back to the agency but I don't want to give up on her, on the other hand I don't want my daughters behavior to get worse? Any advice?

[Sandman2]

   First thought is that your 6 year old is experiencing something she has never felt before - having to share you with someone else.   Its  a tough thing to deal with.   And its not something that will change overnight.
   Anything that you can do to help the 6 year old and the 10 year old bond will be helpful.
   Also kids at the age of your 6 year old are very concrete.  You can tell her all day long that you love her, etc.  but actions or time spent with her is more important.
   You also might want to look into buying, "When I feel Worried", or "   When I feel Sad"   from the Way I Feel series.   These books are aimed at this age group.  Meant to be read allowed with them.   You can read about them here - http://www.amazon.com/When-Feel-Worried-The-Books/dp/0807588954/ref=pd_sim_14_4?ie=UTF8&dpID=51povvur3EL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR126%2C160_&refRID=0AAJBMX9ZMHMWWSQ9PGW

[tish1874]

Thank you