mom sleeps with 11 year old boy

This is more a Mother topic. I am the girlfriend to a father that has very little contact with his son they have been divorced for 10 years, this past week he was able to stay the day ( mom will not allow boy to stay the night) It was Thanks Giving Day. the boy went in our bathroom and seen some body spray that I bought his father and proceeds to tell me that mom buys him the same stuff and he has to wear it for bed time. mom sleeps with him every night and I don't feel that this right at all. for the past few nights I have had detailed dreams of her sleeping with him... not sex but the spooning until the boy falls to sleep and her pleasure she is getting out of it.   is this right? is this child abuse? can we get the son away from her?
what should I do? god I feel she is sick!!!

[margypops]

I think you would need more information before you label her as a child abuser, many families sleep together it does'nt make them abusers, more often than not it stops when puberty appears, around 11-12 sometimes later. I dont think it is really a good thing to question this child ,it may make him feel bad, ask your BF to communicate with the Mom if he is concerned .If you were correct it would make many moms in America' sick,' and I doubt that very much.Why would you want to take a child away from his mom ?

[lil_sweet_thang]

child abuse is very scary and chances r the mother is going to lie about it if its happening as a child that was abused i would turn it in and let the authorities deal with it they will find out for sure what is going on my kids are 6 and 7 and they are not alowed to sleep in my room if abuse is going on that child will have to go through counsiling and will need his father more than ever good luck and please let us know what happens im going to b up all night worried about this kid!!!!!!!!!!