my 2 year old

my child is of course going through terrible two's but it seems he listens less every day. his attitude is that everyone jumps when he says jump, but he disreguards everyone elses requests. i try the spanking, time out, and simply saying NO! what am i doing wrong?

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

It's hard to guide you with such limited information. However, it is possible that what you need is a systematic way of managing your son's behavior. Within a certain range, it is to be expected that two-three year olds will display some degree of oppositional behavior. It's the way they begin to act on their environment. It's a normal part of development, but requires management. Read Lynn Clark's book SOS Help for Parents. It will offer you a productive, practical way of managing this behavior. Beyond that, it will provide you with a reliable guide for managing behavior throughout the years of childhood.