Very good points by specialmom!
Where is this child age wise in relation to the other kids. Is he the oldest? middle child, etc.?
Also, you said he, " he struggles in school with inappropriate behavior. he is so good at manipulations that he fools other people school teachers." If he has inappropriate behavior at school, then his teachers must recognize this? So have they reported this behavior to you? Also, how is he doing grade wise?
Hi and welcome. Well, he certainly sounds like a boy in turmoil. Do you this can often come about due to issues of parents separating? A child feels untethered and quite emotional about it and lacking in true security. Kids then appear to be acting out when in reality, they are under emotional distress. Kids have limited ways to show that. Another thought is that he's been neglected or abused. What you describe is also what a child from that type of background exhibits. OR could he have some mental health issues which would be very sad indeed! Certainly not his fault in any of those three situations. At 8, those are the most likely causes because I wouldn't guess he's possessed by the devil or anything.
Kids often do what they see too. I guess I should throw that in there as well.
so, which of those scenarios do you feel it is?
Now, what does your boyfriend do in terms of helping his son worth through these issues?
I will say as a mother myself that if I felt like I were punishing my children by bring a man and his child into my house, I wouldn't bring the man and his child into my house. I'm very practical and feel that not every situation we find ourselves in romantically is supposed to work out. I broke up with boyfriends over the years for far less than that until I met my now husband.
Kids in crisis need their parents to work together to help them. What is your boyfriend doing to help his son?