out of control 4 year old

[ayvie]

i have a 4 year old son who is extremely out of control we have tried so many things to help improve his behavior. he screams fights and gets angry every day, he doesnt stop moving and he barely sleeps. i dont know what else to try...

[Shauhncy]

My son is 3 and displays many of these problems too. Thanks for the book info. I have just ordered the 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child book. Hppefully this will help.

I am also currently reading "Bringing Up Boys" by James C Dobson.

[mc8]

Same here... He is having troubles at school. I replied to a similar posting a couple of minutes ago. Here is what I wrote:

My son is 4 1/2 yo. He is very smart but does not like to be taught. He gets very frustrated easily and yells very loud or hits. He specially gets frustrated with younger kids taking his stuff while he is using it, and other child's cross-boundary behaviors. He does get angry very easily with me too and is very methodical about little things.

I am reading a book that made me change -- and I have noticed a huge progress on him too. He is much less angry at home -- but still very angry at school with the younger kids (but he has some very good friends his age). Besides reading the book, I am taking him to a child therapist today. I will do whatever it takes to get him to develop better social skills. This has to be done now as his brain is still being formed and any thing causes a deep impression.

The book is "10 Days to a Less Defiant Child: The Breakthrough Program for Overcoming Your Child's Difficult Behavior by Ph.D. Jeffrey Bernstein Ph.D.

I have also ordered the following books that were highly recommended to me:

Share and Take Turns (Learning to Get Along, Book 1)
by Cheri J. Meiners M.Ed.

Easy Activities for Building Social Skills: Dozens of Effective Classroom Strategies & Activities to Teach Cooperation and Communication, Manners and and Respect, Positive Behavior & More! by Nancy Jolson Leber

Words Are Not for Hurting (Ages 4-7) (Best Behavior Series)
by Elizabeth Verdick

How to Take the Grrrr Out of Anger (Laugh And Learn)
by Elizabeth Verdick

Hands Are Not for Hitting (Best Behavior) (Ages 4-7)
by Martine Agassi