period and bedwetting

[sweetness2000123]

My 12 year old wetts to bed and its all the time even when her period is on!!! Ive even told her over and over and ive also showed her but its still not helping. Im stressed. The doctor says its ok but not for me. Its driving me crazy!!! She had a twin sister but she is smarter than she is. PLEASE I NEED SOME ADVICE!!!!

[thepurselady]

Oh no it made me sad to see the comment but she is smarter then she is.  Bed wetting has nothing to do with being smart and she's not doing it to make you angry.

Two of my boys were bedwetters and there is a product (I am not trying to endorse) but it worked for us in two weeks each child.  The product is called the potty pager.  It clips into the underwear and is the size of a pager.  When they urinate the pager goes off and creates an uncomfortable vibration.  It would wake the dead.  They'll jump up and get changed before they fully urinate.  It does not hurt the child it's not a shock just like when your cell phone goes on vibrate.  Give it a shot.  Please don't talk about this heavily with your daughter it will cause her great embarassement.  My boys were ashamed of it so I never talked about it to them.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

It is important that you maintain equanimity about this. Nocturnal enuresis is not something that is within a child's control. If you are negative and critical, your daughter will take that in and think of herself as defective in some way. Nocturnal enuresis occurs with a small percentage of children her age and it will eventually stop. Try to be patient, understanding and supportive. The condition has nothing to do with her intelligence; she is not wanting this to happen; she cannot control it. Do speak with her pediatrician because, at her age, there are medication options that are effective with some (though by no means all) children.