No, I really do not view this as having to do with a need for attention. The prospect of his returning to the home is a signiifcant development and could well prompt a different reaction from her. Obviously, only she knows what is going on 'in her mind and in her heart', but the reaction strikes me as likely genuine. Hopefully she'll disclose more about how she is viewing the situation. If I were in your shoes I'd try to display an interested, curious approach vs one of skepticism.
So, you dont think this is a game she is playing to get attention. I honestly feel like that if she was having an isse she would have shown some signs in2 years. weird after 2 years and he wants to come home now she is acting this way. and also, the thing about it is once he moveshome he wont even be here when she is. she comes over on weekends and thats when he will bevisitin his father. i just think it is attention. i am confused about this. her mother wants to take some of the visitation away from my husband now because of this.
It's not really a matter of 'right'. It's a matter of her revealing her discomfort and that should be respected. It would likely help her to engage in some therapy to address this.
My question is does it seem right that after 2 years of being ok with my son, for her to feel uncomfortable about him again. And i am positive that he has not done anything since then. All he did was show her his private. He never touched her, or said anything to her. He left the room once she yelled at him. She was fine with him all this time. He is currently in counciling but her mother never put her in it. He has been in it for some time now. He is not the same child since he was taken off all his meds. He was once diagnoes bypolar adhd add and all that. once he moved in wiht his father in 2008 we weened him off everything thinking that was making him weird. Well he is better, making good grades and is more respectful. but how can a person be fine for 2 years and act like best friends then all of a sudden she says she just acted that way to try to make it work but it didnt. i dont understand.
What is your question about this situation? Are you wondering if it's the best idea for him to be with the family again? How sure are you about nothing having occurred since the 2008 episode?