sexual behavior

my 4yr old son asked his freind to pull down pants so he can bite his penis is something wrong with him?

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

Four-year-olds are famous for so-called 'sex play' - that is, behavior that is an expression of their groweing curiosity about gener physical differences. Having said that, the specific behavior you describe is not regarded as within the normal spectrum. This behavior warrants concern, in particulalr what gave rise to the request he made of the other boy. If the request was only to pull down his pants it would not warrant as much concern as the matter of biting his penis. In a casual, relaxed manner ask him about this. How did he happen to think of this? Had he seen something like this? Had he ever heard of such behavior? Had anyone asked him to do this? Had he seen any pictures of such behavior?

[amyb1983]

my daughter has gone through something similer this week end her cousin toughed her and they took off there clothes... I'm dying inside and terrifyied to react to this the wrong way. we see her peditritian tuesday. But I'm trying to be calm but I'm dying inside... If this happens at five what happens at ten.... but if I over react will she ever tell me stuff.. Iknow it's awful. I don't remember thinking about things so young. I can't help but feel helpless and like a failure ... broken too.... amy