should my son still have this type of behavior?

[mommyof2808]

My son just turned 4 and has been having temper tantrums for awhile now. It has gotten much much worse in the past few months. If my son is told that he can't have his way he does everything possible to show his aggresion. Biting, throwing toys, hitting, kicking, screaming. It's incredibly frustrating for me as a single parent to deal with. It has gotten to the point where i have to avoid parties, restaurant, malls. I have friends and family that have children all around his age and none of their children behave this way. When it comes to discipline nothing works with him, punishment will just escalate the problem for us. He grows more and more angry, I have had bruises, scratches and even bloody lips due to his behavior. I'm at my wits end trying to deal with him. I don't think that it is ADD or ADHD because he is able to sit through a movie and long car rides. Does this sound like a psychological issue? Should i take my son to a child psycologist?

[ThePlanner]

I feel your pain. My son did the same thing and I took him to a Child Psychologist. She diagnosed Sensory Intergration. His problem was transitioning, ie...leaving a store, leaving a party, going from bath to bed. Also some of his senses were extremely heightened, which caused him to become frustrated, which turned into a temper tantrum. So, if you can find a good therapist, it may be worth it to go.

[jdtm]

Question - is there a family history of mood or personality disorders?  And if so, yes, you should take your son to your family doctor for advice re further medical treatment.

[margypops]

Try to think what triggers the Tantrums prior to them,is he like this at school or at other times, perhaps you have to be firm and set more boundaries, when you are at home or anywhere private you can put him time out and make him stay there.I dont think punishment will solve it I think you have to work out what is causing him to act like this. Does he see any violent behavior and what does he watch on TVis there any one around he could be Jealous,of. Possibly try not to react to him by getting into a confrontation as it then becomes a power struggle. It sounds like there is a behavioral issue not ADD or ADHD.ont tke him out to Malls or anywhere he may want to go to, tell him you will take him when he behaves..