tantrums!!!!!!!!

[Webster2388]

Hi everyone I hope you can help me. I babysit three kids,two four year olds and a six year old. I already made it through one full day of babysitting (8:30-4pm) and I had a few concerns. This afternoon their mom told me to cook them grilled cheese for lunch. I started cooking and their four year old girl started saying she wanted noodles. I told her that her mommy said no noodles for lunch maybe a different day, but she decided not to listen, instead cry, and scream, at the top of her lungs. She decided to continue doing this for a half hour. I'm not sure what to do for her mother says if you feel like it cool her some noodles just ask her what kind. When I ask her daughter what kind she continues to scream and cry loudly at me. If you try to touch her or move her so that she doesn't hurt herself against any objects in the way she'll lash out at you and try to hit or kick you. She says she wants noodles and then changes her mind, which I expect for a four year old. It's difficult to watch three kids when one is having a tantrum in one room and the others are in a different room. Apparently her tantrums happen often and there very common. Please help me, what do I do?

[kd82286]

Is she still napping? If she is then that's a good sign she is in need of one. If not, then I would suggest that you treat the behavior as if it isnot happening. I know it is difficult to ignore a child that is throwing a fit but speaking from the experience of being that child lol, I promise that is the most effective method. Offer her options and if she refuses to make a choice calmly tell her that when she is ready to act like a big girl and choose one of the options provided to come find you. Do not stand there, walk away, give her time to realize that she is in control of her choice. That is what this is about, control.

[koukoucachoo]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eF6kMJxOpvI

[kd82286]

There isn't enough evidence to support NVC in my opinion. There are to many variables inherent to humanity. Particularly with young children. Often they don't know why they are upset (fatigue, immaturity) which makes expression, which is a fundamental precept of NVC, virtually impossible.