"the weinie game"

My 6 year old son was caught under the sheets with his 3 year old cousin. My sister in law said the 3 year olds pants were down and my sons head was on him. My son denies any kissing of any body parts, but the 3 year old told his mother my son was sucking his penis. Either way I am disturbed and uncertain what to do and what to think of this situation, was it normal play or not. My son states his friend taught him this "weinie game" and he was just teaching it to his cousin.....Help!

[val3980]

wow! first off, does your son know that touching other kids there is a "no no"? if not, then you should not punish him. I would suggest sit him down and really explain to him that that behavior was completly out of line and will not be tolerated. we cant discipline our children if they honestly dont know any better. I would also talk with the 3year olds mom. GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING HUN!!

[margypops]

Speak to the friend of your son's mom as he also has been taught this behavior, more supervision when young children are with older ones, this happens a lot and it cannot happen if kids are not left alone in bedrooms .Have them play out in a living area , your son should have some grounding regarding this, it is serious as if he does this to any other children there will be repercussiions.Good Luck

[yngdad]

It seems bad, but its normal. If he didn't know, don't punish him. Kids are curious, his friend taught him, he figured it was ok. Even if it isn't, kids do what feels good. What he did, he knew felt good. He obviously didn't know it was a bad thing. Talk to him, the parent of the cousin, and the parents of the other boy. Boys will boys. Don't overeact. It wasn't meant to be a bad thing. Again its normal. Good luck.

[Jen620]

Thank you ladies. I am at better ease now. I have come to the conclusion that this is something that was not done as a sexual thing. It was something my son thought was a game. He now knows that his privates are not to be shared with anyone else, and he is not to touch anyone elses privates. Me and my husband have set boundaries as far as play is concerned and informed him closed doors are not allowed for a while. We believe he understands. Again thank you.

[margypops]

I would do it for more than a 'while '

[azu687]

I would talk to your child's friends parents, and probably wouldn't allow him over there. This is not as normal as some would like to think. Your child might not have known it was wrong and I would discuss this with them, but the fact that the friend calls it the weinie game worries me. We recently dealt with an issue like this with my step-son and the kid who taught it to him was taught it by a family member who was molesting him. Although your child was probably innocent like ours was, the other child might be getting unwanted attention from someone and that would concern me, especially if he is around your child teaching him what he has learned, and acting out the same things with your child. Sometimes children are just curious, but sometimes it is a learned behavior.

[nursegirl6572]

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